ADHD reWired Eric Tivers, LCSW

Today, I have some important updates for those of you interested in our Coaching and Accountability Groups. We still have a few spots open, and I want to make sure you know how you can join us! First, a quick update: our third section with Kristin is now completely full. Thanks to everyone who signed up! But don’t worry, there are still opportunities to join our other sections. We have a few openings in our early morning section with Brian, which meets Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 8 AM Pacific, that’s 11 AM Eastern. Plus, I personally have one spot left in my section which meets at 11 AM Pacific, 2 PM Eastern. If you're concerned about missing our orientation, let me assure you, it’s not too late to catch up. We’re prepared to get you up to speed quickly so you can fully participate. Now, I need to stress that time is of the essence. Our first actual coaching session kicks off this Monday, and our registration cut-off is this Wednesday. We set this deadline to ensure no one starts too far behind and can get the full benefit of our program from the beginning. You can learn more and begin the pre-registration process by visiting our website at coachingrewired.com. Simply add your name to our interest list on the homepage. Alternatively, you can text me directly at 224-636-3742 for immediate assistance with registration. And remember, enrollment is still just $999, with payment plans available to make it easier for you to join. Don’t miss this chance to gain valuable tools and join a supportive community that understands the challenges and strengths of living with ADHD.  

Welcome, everyone, to a somewhat different episode of the ADHD reWired Podcast. If you’re new here, I'm your host, Eric Tivers, and today we're going to dive into a topic that's both personal and universal. And I’,m gonna get kinda vulnerable with you here. But before we get into that, I wanted to let you know, that our spring Coaching groups which start on thursday, is experiencing lower than typical enrollment this season, which is why with group starting this Thursday, April 11th, 2024, we’re giving you the the chance to join us for only $999. That’s 50% off my section, and $650 off Coach Brian and Coach Kristin’s section. Sign up by this Wednesay, by attending our last registration event wedneday at 12 pm pt / 3 eastern, or by going to coachingrewired.com and scheduling a 1:1 registration interview. Come join us for our lowest price since 2017, only 999. And with if you qualify for paypal credit, you can break it up over 6 months interest free. That’s only $166 a month. It’s the same great program, at a shockingly low price. Go to coachingrewired.com to get started with pre-registration. Add your name to the interest list. And we’ll be in touch. Our episode is titled "When What Was Working, Stops Working," and it's a reflection on the journey of ADHD reWired over the last decade, where we are now, and we’re going to end this short reflection with 10 tips that you can use when what was working, stops working. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you know that we've experienced an incredible journey together. We were the #1 ADHD podcast for 8 consecutive years, a title that we held with pride and gratitude. Our coaching groups grew consistently, and we were even featured as one of the innovative programs at the international conference on ADHD back in 2019 and we built a community that has been a source of support, inspiration, and transformation for so many. But as with all journeys, there have been twists and turns, unexpected challenges that have forced us to reevaluate and adapt. In the world of ADHD, this is a familiar theme. We find strategies that work for us, routines that bring stability and productivity, and then, for reasons often beyond our control, those strategies stop working. It can feel like hitting a wall, and it's a feeling that many of us in the ADHD community know all too well. In the past year, ADHD reWired has faced its own set of challenges. The landscape of ADHD support has changed dramatically, with a surge in new podcasts and coaching programs. When I started ADHD reWired in 2014, I beleive there were 7 or 8 other ADHD podcasts. I just counted on apple podcasts, 120 ADHD specefic podcasts! This influx, combined with the economic uncertainties that have affected so many, has made it more difficult for us to fill our coaching groups as we once did. And from talking to a number of other ADHD coaches out there, it looks like this is happening across the board. It's a situation that has prompted a lot of reflection and reevalution and has required me to make some really difficult decisions. For a decade, we've been on a trajectory of growth and success. We've built something truly special. During the peak of the pandemic we were doing 5 groups, and built a team to support this heightened demand. And over the last year or so, things have have changed. Over the last few seasons, due to decreased demand, we’ve went back to 3 groups, and even those have not been easy to completely fill. So we’ve lowered prices, which have helped, but I think between the economy and the current influx of other ADHD programs out there, what was working is no longer working. And, man, it’s hard when when what had been working for so many years, just stops working. But it's also an opportunity, a chance to revisit what we stand for and how we can continue to serve our community in meaningful ways. Our mission has always been to provide a space where individuals with ADHD can come

Mix together cello, ADHD, and an insatiable need for sushi, and you get Steven Sharp Nelson–one of the most watched musicians in the world!  A self-titled “dorky dad”, Steven attributes his hard-earned “unlikely” success story to his unending love for helping people feel the worth of their own soul through music.  Name a concert venue–he’s sold it out!  Name an iconic place in the world–he’s filmed a music video there with The Piano Guys!  His content is watched and streamed over 3 million times every day!  He’s performed and spoken to two million people around the world; as much as he loves all of this, his favorite thing in the world is one-on-one time with his wife and each of his four children who “tolerate” and sometimes even love his quirky creative persona!  He is passionate about music education and its critical role in our culture.  Learn More about Steven Sharp Nelson: Find him on ThePianoGuys.com Find Steven Sharp Nelson on Instagram @stevensharpnelson Find The Piano Guys on Instagram @thepianoguys In this episode, you’ll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: Steven’s fascination with music’s power and effect on the brain “Perpetual burnout can often be a result of unhealthy hyperfocus and overdriving your overdrive.” - Steven Sharp Nelson Burnout as an indicator of your strengths rather than your weaknesses Practicing the art of self-awareness and healthy hyperfocus vs. unhealthy hyperfocus “A perfect balance does not exist!” Self-suggestibility and attention abundance “Not being present is the easiest way to be depressed.” / “Face down, chin up!”  The parable of the spinning (too many) plates and chronic burnout  The space between the notes / The meaning of life is in between our expectations; the space between our expectations is where we find meaning Music, mutualism, edification, and the role of intention Toxic positivity vs. a genuine desire to appreciate and be grateful “You are like a cello” and navigating our unique gifts, variables, and expressions of ADHD When too many options become too much Cataloging what you’re working on and what you’re not working on The wax and wane of motivation / The muscles of discipline and consistency Book :: Atomic Habits by James Clear (link here)  Removing obstacles between us and the things we’re working towards Hyperfocus, pros and cons, expecting internal pushback, and creating a virtual cliffhanger for yourself  How do you interact with your hyperfocus?  Website :: Arthur Brooks https://arthurbrooks.com The toxic belief that everything in our lives should “always be on an incline” Arc jumping and how to go from mid-life crisis to mid-life crescendo  Are you bored or are you unfulfilled?  A practice of fulfillment scores and finding out where your next sense of fulfillment will be YouTube Video :: Me and My Cello - Happy Together (Turtles) Cello Cover - The Piano Guys The importance of becoming friends with your instrument A message to you, our wonderful listeners, from Steven  🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ TheADHDCreativesPodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube!  

On today’s episode, Clutterbug’s creator Cas Aarssen joins Eric on the podcast!  Cas’s Clutterbug is a home-organizing business which provides education, inspiration, and support to over half a million families worldwide through her YouTube channel, podcast, and various other social media platforms!  Cas is also the author of four best-selling books about organization (listed below)!  As a self-professed recovering “super-slob”, she discovered that through her own journey with clutter, that organization is not one-size-fits-all!  She’s identified four unique organizing styles and developed the Clutterbug method to help individuals discover their type and implement customized solutions that will finally get them organized long-term!   Learn More about Clutterbug: Check out the website at Clutterbug.com where you can take the free quiz to identify your organizing style! Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/clutterbug.me/ Instagram @clutterbug https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ YouTube Channel – search for Clutterbug Clutterbug’s Tough Love Find all of Cas’s books here https://clutterbug.me/books In this episode, you’ll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: What it was like being a hyperactive girl with ADHD From being 15 years old and homeless to becoming an adult and experiencing serious consequences   How Cas became interested in home organization and being an ADHD mom – “My house was a wreck!”  Big categories vs. small categories and having your house reflect the way YOU organize How an ADHD diagnosis helped change and shift a sense of self  “Maybe I’m doing all this cool stuff because I have ADHD!”  Having higher education does not necessarily mean you can’t be great or do great things, such as having a TV show or having 4 bestselling books  Cas’s four different types of organizing, how you store your things, and how you sort your things Just because you’re a visual person doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a “cluttery” person Turning subconscious tendencies into actionable and functional organization  Visual homes vs. piles and taking advantage of how you naturally sort things  How perfection can turn into procrastination and paralysis  Being detailed and detail-oriented vs. being a perfectionist Learned behaviors, environmental behaviors, and other things that make our organizing styles unique  Containers, bowls, boundaries, and self-awareness  “We are gathering more than our brains can manage.” / “Everything you own is something you have to remember…”  The actual differences between tidying, cleaning, decluttering, and organizing How to start decluttering, the anxiety around getting rid of things, and scarcity mindsets Having a tidy home that fits your organization style is a form of self-love and self-respect  Clutter-blindness / Safety, security, and mindset around money vs. accumulating things Selling on eBay or Facebook Marketplace isn’t always the answer Standing up to your clutter / You are not your stuff!  🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ TheADHDCreativesPodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube! 

This week, Dr. Nate Page joins Eric on the podcast! Nate has many titles, including Ph.D, licensed psychologist, certified group psychotherapist; but his education on burnout has come through his own painful journey with burnout.  He began presenting on burnout seven years ago after witnessing the devastating impacts of burnout and compassion fatigue on his own life, the lives of his colleagues, and the lives of his therapy clients.   He soon was specializing in individual and group therapy services for healthcare professionals who are caught in the depths of burnout.  Nate dedicates a significant portion of his career to providing education and training on these topics, which was how Eric was introduced to Dr. Nate Page - at the CHADD conference in 2023 when presenting on burnout!   Get in touch with Nate: Check out his website at GroupTherapyCentral.com In this episode, you’ll hear tips and/or discussions about: The stigma around burnout and reducing the stigma and shame Burnout: Not “if” but “when” The idea of burnout as an injury and re-scarring burnout wounds Compassion fatigue as bruises in the soul The good, the bad, and the ugly of stress  Paying attention to burnout cues Context-driven depression, workplace, and situational depression Boredom and stress Addressing “a” problem vs. identifying the right problem to create appropriate solutions “Am I on the path to burnout or am I already burnt out but am ignoring/avoiding the signs?” The importance of taking restorative breaks  Preventing the cycle of burnout / Healing and recovering from stress fractures Relationship dynamics, fairness, finding pebbles in the shoes, and potential extra stressors Maximizing the restorative nature of taking time off  Creating structure during a break and getting the “recharge” effect Can you really “speed up” recovery? Compassion during healing and recovering from burnout The importance of engaging with what makes you feel alive Resources & Honorable Mentions  Paper :: “Compassion Fatigue as Bruises in the Soul: A Qualitative Study on Nurses” DOI: 10.1177/09697330211003215  ADHD reWired episode :: 429 - Growth Cycles - with (ADHD reWired Coach!) Brian Entler ADHD reWired episode :: 452 - Overcoming Burnout - with David Greenwood ADHD reWired episode :: 507 - Neurodiverging, Masking, Burnout, and More - with Danielle Sullivan ADHD reWired episode :: 512 - Creativity for Healing - with Melissa Seldon ADHD reWired episode :: 514 - Introducing The ADHD Creatives Podcast - with (ADHD reWired Coach) Kristin Marts, LCSW Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at   🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube!   

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions, get full answers from this recording, and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon!   In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: Personal positive experiences, nuances, and psychology of body doubling  The positive effects of being connected vs. being alone to get things done Morning routines and strategies for an ADHD household to guide a child without a lot of struggle or frustration Morning routines, time management, getting out of the house and transitioning  Incorporating and utilizing different human senses to help with time-awareness and transitions The differences in ADHD presentation between kids and adults and addressing outdated views of what ADHD looks like and how it can present Reasons why it may be difficult for friends and loved ones to shift their perceptions when discussing an ADHD diagnosis Self-love and self-acceptance with ADHD How sleep, exercise, nutrition, and overall well-being can affect our executive functions Finite and practical examples to help with time-blindness / Discovering pain-points and what creates avoidance of transitions  Reframing what a break can be if you’re resistant to taking breaks  Task-batching / The effects of technology on transition time / Mindfulness with transitions “How can I get over the mindset that somehow I can’t actually have money without spending it?” Emotional responses vs. value-based responses  “Burnout is the body taking the rest it needs by force.” Planning and structuring for self-care / Meditation to re-regulate our nervous systems  “Self-care time is productive time!” ADHD and emotional dysregulation, trauma, and bouncing back faster from dysregulation “There’s nothing wrong with expressing your emotions.”  “What would you tell a best friend if…”  ...and so much more!  Resources & Honorable Mentions Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 444: ADHD Tax Stories & Strategies with Rick Webster Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 338: Money Management with Rick Webster from RenaFi Article :: Adlerian Theory https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/Alderian-Psychotherapy-Intro-Sample.pdf App :: Brili Routines - Apps for Families & Adults with ADHD https://brili.com Website :: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org Website :: RenaFi with Rick Webster - for money management when you have ADHD https://www.renafi.com Book :: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff Book :: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport   Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) Tool :: Time Timer 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 📺 Check out ADHD reWired Coaches Eric, Kristin, and Brian on their latest livestream of ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table here → https://www.youtube.com/live/3Q3uxP552Gc?si=tICadz0oREb2_YJ5