The thief of all joy is Comparison. We live in a hyper visible world and that means comparison is at an all time high! FOLLOW YOUR CALL - NOT THE CROWD.   In this episode I tallk about how to focus on the goal and vision, not what others are doing around you! Hope this episode blesses you! Don't forget to follow @hayleymulenda on all social media platforms and @buildingyou.podcast on Instagram sign up to my mailing list : www.hayleymulenda.com/podcast If you have any questions about...

It's been a year since I last uploaded... I KNOW, but I have good reason. 2022 has been a YEAR.. there's been many high's and many low's.. I wanted to share my heart with you.  In this episode I explain why it took me a year to come back to my podcast and what I have learned along the way. Many times we fear facing our trauma, but you can never walk in true freedom until you learn to face your trauma. I think this podcast comes with a lot of vulnerability and transparency and I hope it'll...

Can you make genuine friendships in the industry? Can you mix business and friendships? This is a question I think many people ask themselves AND I don't blame them. Sometimes we need to understand the difference between acquaintance and friendship. This episode is a raw conversations between a good friend of mine, Nissy Tee.. We discuss how our industry has impacted us and how we navigate relationships/friendships.

Self Awareness is EVERYTHING! You have to learn to be self aware! Sometimes we focus on the external before we focus on the internal! Before we plan for the new year, can we sit and evaluate? Are you happy with where you are right now? Before we can build, we must first dig. Dig within yourself and ask yourself those hard questions - evaluation is necessary for elevation.

Friendships are so important, however before we point fingers on whether our friends are good for us - it's important to ask yourself - are you a good friend? Self Awareness is EVERYTHING! You have to learn to be self aware! Sometimes the issue may not be with everyone else, but actually within yourself! This episode is a raw conversations where we discuss healthy friendships : what are the red flags and green flags in friendship? This episode features my best friend of over 10 years

For years, girls have been asking Ciara for her prayer and I am always one to say "be careful what you pray for" - as much as I am inspired by others, I don't know the sacrifice that is coming with it! I think we have to remind ourselves that God doesn't just want to cater to our love lives and relationships, he wants to cater to our souls! This is simply because of the fact that God cares about you!

The idea of marriage was so scary, simply because I had the goal to be a successful business woman but I never had the goal to be a good wife, or even a good mother.  Coming from a single parent household marriage was something that I did not really consider - your girl is getting married and in this episode I sit down with my Fiancé highlighting how I went from being scared of marriage to now desiring marriage and getting ready to be a wife.

Most times when we start something new, we are more likely to entertain the idea that we are going to fall or fail, rather than to entertain the idea of flying. I don't think many of us fail failure, I think many fail success - the idea of soaring and flying seems like a reality many do not want to entertain. This year I have let go with the idea of planning, but just trusting God.  Most times we will fall in our own strength, but fly when we trust in his strength. 

When we are so focused on the promise, we forget the importance behind the process - never forget the importance of the process. The process helps you with character. It's not about getting the blessings, it's about keeping them and the process does that. The process is long, nerve-wracking, discouraging and sometimes painful, however you have to find a way to encourage yourself and motivate yourself to keep going - even when you don't feel like it!

Yes. I AM BACK! Back & BETTER! I have been away for a while (7 and a half months to be precise) and that's simply because podcasting wasn't my priority and I think many of us don't know how to prioritise properly and that's how we get super overwhelmed BUT NO MORE OF THAT! Second half of the year will not be full of overwhelm, it'll be full of wisdom, and great strategy! Can I get an amen? AMEN!

2020 has been trying to say the least but one thing I would say is that 2020 has been the year of plenty. PLENTY of blessings, PLENTY of tears but PLENTY of lessons and I want to dedicate the final episode of 2020 to share what I have learned this year. Thank you for supporting The Building You Podcast in the year of 2020! I pray that God will continue to bless you for the year ahead. I am looking back and thanking God but looking forward and trusting God.

Burnout is something many of us face, but no one really talks about. It's nothing something to boast in and it's something to avoid at all costs, it's easier to bounce back from a break than it is to bounce back from burnout. PLEASE DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO HIT BURNOUT. I would rather end the year on a break, than to end the year tired and burned out. If we are going to end the year strong, lets make sure we are mentally and emotionally strong first.

The idea of being a role model feeds into the narrative that it’s better to inspire, than to be authentic and if I’m being honest, that narrative is so toxic. I am an advocate for progression over perfection May I inspire others by who I am, not by who I pretend to be. Social media has distorted reality. It’s shown the highlights, but it’s never shown the real and because of that - people now live  for the brand online, and forget the importance of living authentically offline

We live in a time where people expect grace but they're not so quick to extend it or give it. In a time where people focus on the 1 thing you do wrong, rather than the 9 things you do right. Cancel Culture is a culture which has made people feel they have the right to cancel or slander when others fall short or make a mistake and I CAN NEVER support it. How can we use our platforms to talk about mental health? but also entertain platforms that slander and kick people whilst they are down? 

2020 has been challenging to say the least, but it's in moments like this, I had realised how much I needed God and how much I needed my faith. "GOD IS REAL NO MATTER HOW I FEEL" It's so easy to hold onto faith when everything is going right, but what about when things are going left?  In this episode, we get raw and real about how to keep your faith when everything is going left and when it's hard to keep your eyes on the light. 

It's been a while since I last released a podcast but if I am being honest, I needed some time. During this time.. I wasn't learning, but I was unlearning and I feel 2020 has been a year of unlearning. I had to go through a season of change and transition and I don't think I am the only one? I wanted to share a few of the things I had to unlearn in order for me to evolve and in order for me to grow. 2020 - The year where we all had to unlearn in order to grow!

Just because you're busy, it doesn't mean you're being productive. In society today, we are always pushing for the narrative of "looking busy" rather than being productive. I think it's very important to understand that being booked and busy isn't always the best way to live your life.. It's important to prioritise rest and to prioritise yourself. I always say sometimes it's best to bounce back from a break than to bounce back from a burnout.

I would definitely say Lockdown made me really re-think my friendships and unfortunately there were some people who I had just let go, expired friendships doesn't always mean "BEEF" -Just because we are not as close, doesn't mean there's an issue.. I talk about the reality of outgrowing your friends and outgrowing your circle. It is hard but sometimes it is necessary. This episode is part 2 a previous episode called "What About Your Friends" Enjoy!

With everything going on in the world, I keep hearing people say 2020 is cancelled or that 2020 is trash.. and I can't help but think.. that when did we stop believing in the power of the tongue? This is not the time to be speaking such negativity over the year, this is the time to rise up and speak life. I use this episode to highlight why it's important to watch what you say over your life and over your year, I share how it's important to walk by faith and not by sight.

I know it's been a while since I last uploaded BUT WE ARE BACK! AND I MEAN WE ARE BACK BACK! With everything going on regarding the coronavirus and COVID-19, Black Lives Matter, Me Too movement ; I use this episode to highlight why I had to take a break and why it's important to ensure you are protecting your peace always and all ways. Be the change you wish to see, don't focus on how everyone else is moving but focus on the part you are called to play. 

I know it's been a while since I last uploaded BUT WE ARE BACK! AND I MEAN WE ARE BACK BACK! With everything going on regarding the coronavirus and COVID-19, Black Lives Matter, Me Too movement ; I use this episode to highlight why I had to take a break and why it's important to ensure you are protecting your peace always and all ways. Be the change you wish to see, don't focus on how everyone else is moving but focus on the part you are called to play. 

I know it's been a while since I last uploaded BUT WE ARE BACK! With everything going on regarding the coronavirus and COVID-19, I use this episode to highlight what I have learned during this time of self-isolating/Quarantine, where many are choosing to go through Quarantine, I am choosing this GROW through it.. Change is inevitable but GROWTH is optional. I hope this will inspire you to heal, grow and evolve during this time x Read more information below

With everything going on regarding the coronavirus and COVID-19, I use this episode to highlight how it is important not to just focus on your physical health, but on your mental health. We are in a time of uncertainty. It's normal to feel anxious and fearful - with exams being locked off, people losing their jobs, shops running out of stock and the world running out of toilet roll, I have found that it's very important to protect your peace in all ways, and always. Please read below for more :

Are you ready to handle what you're praying for? Always remember that God will not give you a promise that will take you out of his presence. We can sometimes end up idolising the gifts, rather than worshipping the giver. Join Hayley Mulenda as she challenges your prayer points, she highlights the different reasons why certain prayers may not be manifesting in your life and encourages you to praise God not just for the opened doors but the closed doors too.