The Captivatingly Confident Podcast Kim Ludeman

Have you ever thought to yourself "why can't I just be happy" or "why do I keep getting in my own way"? If so, this episode is for YOU! In this episode, we discuss:
How the Ego part of the brain works. What the Higher Self brain looks like.  Why the brain craves routine, loops, patterns and consistency. Why the thing or feeling you want is always out of reach. How to create more capacity for the feelings you want. Practical exercise to start to increase your ability to hold the feelings you want. Make sure you share this episode and tag us- @captivatinglyconfidentpodcast!

Episode 127- Cultivating Compassion, Curiosity and Connection Through Conflict with Tim Ludeman LPC
 
How do you feel about conflict?? If you’re like most people, it’s not your favorite and you may even go to great lengths to avoid it. This avoidance or fear robs couples of the opportunity to really connect and grow on a deeper level. In this episode, Licensed Professional Counselor, Tim Ludeman, joins Kim to talk about how conflict can actually create connection and improve intimacy in romantic relationships. Kim and Tim have been married since April 2009 and have learned a lot about conflict in their 15 years together. In this episode, they talk through common pitfalls in conflict and how to shift into curiosity and compassion to increase connection.
 
You can learn more about the work Tim does with couples and individuals on his site, www.lighthousecounselingpdx.com.
 
Mentioned in the show:
 
Marriage and Relationship Experts, The Gottmans- https://www.gottman.com
 
Kim and Tim talking about anxiety- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/captivatingly-confident-podcast/id1436115186?i=1000471425589
 
Our Guest: Tim Ludeman is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Oregon who sees clients online. He started his practice, Lighthouse Counseling PDX, in 2005. He loves working with couples and individuals to help them utilize tools and feel a sense of empowerment and agency in their relationships and personal lives. He and Kim have been married for 13 years and have two children, ages 8 and 20 months. 
 
About the Host, Kim: Kim is a Certified Brainspotting Coach who works with clients all over the world using her unique blend of Brainspotting and Nutrition/Health/Fitness Coaching. She is the creator of Reveal Retreats which creates a safe space to reveal what the real blocks are to loving the life you live utilizing small group expansion Brainspotting. Kim is also the founder of Summit Seekers, a national hiking community committed to empowering women to connect deeply with themselves and others both on and off the trail. She is a mom to two kiddos, Louis 8 and Lucy 20 months. She loves hiking, cooking, shopping and sleeping. Kim discovered a passion for connecting people to tools and support after the loss of her mom in 2004. She thrives on creating safe spaces for women to connect and feel seen. She has been coaching for over 13 years and loves seeing people feel empowered and confident. 
 
You can connect with Kim via email (Kim@captivatinglyconfident.com) and Instagram (@kim.ludeman). 
www.kimludeman.com
www.summitseekersllc.com
www.revealretreats.com

Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck in a rut? Like you feel like you "can't" get out of it no matter what you do? In this episode, Kim talks about how to cultivate empowerment by swapping "can't" for "how". This pivitol shift can create clarity, spaciousness and curiosity in helping you identify and meet your needs.

It can be really easy to get overwhelmed when you get triggered by others, circumstances or things you feel you can't control. It's so easy to jump into self-soothing behaviors like eating, busyness, shopping, binging, scrolling etc. When that happens, wouldn't it be nice to have a tool that was quick and easy to use that actually helps?? Tune in to learn how to use Stop, Drop and Roll to help you calm down no matter where you are or what you're doing.

Have you ever said "they made me feel____"? Maybe you have felt like people had the power to make you feel a way. The truth is, people are mirrors and reflect back that which we are uncomfortable with in ourselves. 
In this episode, Kim explores what it looks like to take control back and empower yourself to understand your feelings and communicate them so you feel seen and understood. With practical tools, you can confidently say "It's not you, it's me!". 

I'M BACK!!!!

After an 6 month hiatus from the mic, I finally found inspiration to record this episode all about wanting, lack and abundance. I am sooo excited to be back with you and can't wait to share my thoughts on law of attraction and manifesting with you!!