Recorded live at TopatoCon 2015, Emily and an all-star panel of guests discuss a wide variety of topics: finding pleasure rather than accepting what you're stuck with, body image, vulva puppetry, feeling trapped by lack of education, and the miraculous powers of a legendary...Magic Wand.

Her podcasting schedule completely wrecked by Book Tour (which is going great, by the way!), Emily "phones in" a micro-episode where she answers listener mail. How do we deal with the way our partner relationships change over time? "Very carefully" is the short answer.

"Penny Hall" in New Zealand has spent her life at war with a phantom self that has informed who she thinks she's supposed to be sexually. She talks about her lifelong discovery process of determining whether she is, in fact, Super-Sexy Lady, or if her authentic Sexual Identity is really "just" Penny Hall. "Penny Hall" will return.

"Cindy Lou" has never had an orgasm. She discusses her experiences and Emily assigns her homework.

Amelia Nagoski is a choral conductor and Emily's twin sister. They start with lube and go from there, eventually talking about Stephen Fry and how prejudices appear in strange places when it regards what we define as "abnormal". Emily and Amelia's voices are very similar. The clearer voice in this recording is Emily. The somewhat distorted-by-Skype one is Amelia.

Danielle Corsetto has been reading Emily's newly released book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life (available soon in the UK). Danielle asks questions about what makes sex hurt, and whether that's normal. They also discuss the male-centric definitions of sex (especially as it pertains to orgasm), as well as how Big Pharma is trying to medicalize women's sexual dysfunction with "Female Viagra".

Emily discusses 50 Shades of Grey, Secretary, and the portrayal of BDSM in the mainstream with Oh Joy Sex Toy creator Erika Moen. Emily's book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life is out in the USA on 3 March 2015, and in the UK on 9 April 2015. Already love Come As You Are? Rate and review the show in iTunes, even if you don't use iTunes!

Originally posted as an episode of Thank You For Calling!, Come As You Are host Emily Nagoski talks about her work as a sex educator and the misconceptions she's faced with when people stop her in the grocery store to ask about their sex lives. Subscribe to Come As You Are (via this link to RSS) and rate and review it in iTunes as soon as you see it there.