Your significant other should be a reflection of yourself. What you are willing to tolerate and accept in a relationship. What makes a great healthy relationship (regardless of romance or friendship) is having the same ethics and ways you approach in life. Your other is someone more than a person...

I've recently lost a loved one again and I don't really understand how I feel to be honest. I just know that I feel bless in this lifetime to have the ones I love in my life. All we can do in times like these is wish for the best and do our best.