Deeper Sex - A Sex Positive Podcast Exploring Fantasies And Boundaries Deeper Sex Podcast

Almost everyone carries with them, in a secret dark corner of their mind, at least one sexual fantasy that they don’t dare to share. We are afraid to reveal our deepest desires, even to our loving partners. Often the reason is shame, or fear of being judged.
Some fantasies are scenes that you might like one day to live out in real life. Others will remain just sexy movies that we play for ourselves. Either way, fantasies are fantastic fuel for  your erotic world – and their power multiplies, if somehow you find the courage to share them with your partner.
In this super-sexy episode, we decided to make ourselves vulnerable by sharing with each other – live in the moment – some fantasies that we had never revealed before, even with each other. We explore the feelings that make it so difficult to express desires that our social conditioning warns us might seem weird or dirty. We reflect on how liberating it feels to take that leap of faith, and be rewarded with love (and sexy opportunity!).
You’ll hear about public sex in kinky clubs, blindfolds and restraints, anonymous touch, and playing with multiple people. Perhaps, listening to us expose ourselves might give you inspiration and even trigger some spicy conversations for you and your partner...
Keep on listening if you want to hear all the hot details about Allie, Will and Chiara’s hidden fantasies! This is a spicy one! 
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01:17 Exploring The Unspoken Desires
03:25 The Allure and Limits of Fantasies
04:01 The Fantasy Of Being Taken… 
05:02 It's Shameful to Express Sexual Fantasies… NOT! 
05:51 Conditioning of Female Sexuality: Why Can't I Be A Slut??
07:28 Embracing and Expressing Fantasies: Playing Within a Group 
09:00 70 Virgins or 7 Sluts?
11:35 We All Have A Masculine And Feminine Side
15:44 It's Important For A Woman To Feel Respected And In Control
16:02 Anonymous Sex In A Club Anyone?
16:41 Another Spicy Fantasy: Tying a Woman up to a Pole in a Club
19:03 When Fantasies Become Real: Experience a Sex Positive Club!
24:09 The Power of Eye Contact in Erotic Spaces
25:44 10 Men Watching??
26:35 Voicing Your Fantasy Will Set You Free
28:10 Recap of Today’s Top 4 Learnings
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WHO ARE WE? ABOUT WILL:
Will is a psychologist, a journalist, an entrepreneur, a spin doctor, an executive advisor, and a father. For two decades his passion was the world of words and stories. He reported from wars and riots. He wrote communication strategies for national governments and prime ministers. He coached CEOs and rocket scientists. He built companies and made his fortune, changed track, reinvented himself, and refocused his energy on inner meaning.
Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. He is fascinated by the power of love, intimacy and sexual liberation to forge profound and connected relationships with others and to unlock the deepest healing forces within ourselves.
Will is married to Chiara, and could not possibly be happier.
 
WHO ARE WE? ABOUT CHIARA:
Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach®, with a masters degree in business communication. She was a director for a major tech-sector pioneer where she led sales teams for over 15 years. Communication and helping others to perform were her daily bread. Finding herself successful but unfulfilled, she left her first marriage, quit the corporate world and embarked on a new journey – first to reinvent herself, and then to help others chart their own path of meaning and purpose. She rechanneled her energy from masculine overachiever to feminine goddess turned (self)-love mentor.  She reconnected with her body and learned to receive true love.
Today Chiara

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You asked for our origin stories… and here they are! Today you will hear from Allie, Will and Chiara about the journeys that brought them to non-monogamous bliss: from conservative childhoods, through breakdowns, divorces and body shame to the light at the end of the tunnel. 
We show how opening up our sexual worlds became a catalyst for the strongest relationships of our lives, founded in trust, authenticity, communication and beneath it all – self-love.
We explain how we “fell” into non-monogamy almost by chance, survived a few novice mistakes, and explored our way through this crazy circus to discover what we like.
You’ll hear spicy stories about our first experiences in group sex environments and swinger clubs, what we put ourselves through, how we learned to communicate, trust and stand up for ourselves.
We’re aware that what we do isn’t everyone's cup of tea. Perhaps you can’t picture yourself in an Eyes-Wide-Shut sex party, and that’s fine – we’re not kink evangelists! This podcast uses stories of adventure on the fruity end of the spectrum as a lens to explore ideas that we hope will empower everybody – singles and monogamous folks included.
Would you like some fresh ideas on things like communication, curiosity and bravery? If so, listen on and enjoy!
01:14 Introduction to The Episode
02:27 You Should Listen If...
02:51 Will's Journey: From Vanilla to Exploration
05:21 Finding Freedom and Rebirth through Love and Exploration
06:04 Chiara’s Transformation: from Catholic Roots to Kissing a Woman (!)
08:57 From Fantasy To Reality
10:56 Communicate Clearly Before Swinging!
12:52 “Sexperts” Night
14:40 Fun4Two: Our First Swingers Club
15:39 The Dark Room
18:29 "The Hot Tub Lady" Encounter 
21:21 I Kissed A Girl And I Liked It
25:11 Allie's Life Adventure: from Small Town Girl to Adventurous Sex Lover
28:08 If We Cheat We Cheat Together
29:29 The Sexy Castle Adventure... Attempt
33:14 Sorry - I Already Came!
34:30 Swinging CAN Strengthen Relationships
39:59 How Swinging Environments Can Gift Body Confidence
41:24 How to Navigate the Swinging Scene
43:25 Is Swinging for Me? 
45:44 Keeping the Spark Alive
51:02 The Hot Tub Story: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly
51:45 No Condom Asked
55:23 What We Learnt From Our Mistakes At Our First Swingers Club
56:19 Be Open! (To Listen AND To Communicate)
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WHO IS WILL: 
Will is a psychologist, a journalist, an entrepreneur, a spin doctor, an executive advisor, and a father. For two decades his passion was the world of words and stories. He reported from wars and riots. He wrote communication strategies for national governments and prime ministers. He coached CEOs and rocket scientists. He built companies and made his fortune, changed track, reinvented himself, and refocused his energy on inner meaning.
Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. He is fascinated by the power of love, intimacy and sexual liberation to forge profound and connected relationships with others and to unlock the deepest healing forces within ourselves.
Will is married to Chiara, and could not possibly be happier.
 
WHO IS CHIARA:
Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach®, with a masters degree in business communication. She was a director for a major tech-sector pioneer where she led sales teams for over 15 years. Communication and helping others to perform were her daily bread. Finding herself successful but unfulfilled, she left her first marriage, quit the corporate world and embarked on a new journey – first to reinvent herself, and then to help others chart their own path of meaning and purpose. She rechanneled her energy from masculine overachiever to feminine goddess turned

Today’s episode is all about a very common problem for both men and women: body image.
You’ll hear how negative perceptions can impact intimacy and relationships, and how healing and personal growth can transform your sex life and deepen your relationship.
Women in particular often feel negatively about their appearance due to societal standards, so Chiara vulnerably shares her journey to overcome shame that her boobs were “too big”, and then “scarred”. We explore how the lens of positive self-perception can boost sexual confidence: deeper sexiness comes from feeling confident and comfortable in one's skin, rather than conforming to external beauty standards.
For those that might be curious, you’ll also hear how non-monogamy and swinging can be platforms for receiving genuine feedback from others that don’t necessarily have a vested interest in just giving you a compliment - like a husband or friend would do.
01:13 Body Confidence for Better Intimacy
01:19 Body Image and Self-Perception: “my boobs are too big!”
02:09 The Impact that Body Image Can Have on Intimacy
02:26 Overcoming Body Image Issues
02:29 The Role of Mindset in Sensuality
03:41 The Influence of Media on Body Image
04:06 The Disconnect Between Appearance and Self-Perception
04:53 The Importance of Self-Acceptance
05:37 Redefining Attractiveness
06:17 “Beautiful” Doesn’t Mean “Sexy”: The Impact of Arrogance on Attractiveness
07:12 The Journey to Feeling “Comfortable”, not “Confident”
09:17 How Moderate Physical Activity can Improve Your Body Image Perception
11:04 The Importance of Healthy Eating
12:06 The Power of Positive Self-Perception
12:58 Embracing Your Body is Liberating!
13:51 Chiara's Breast Reduction Experience
13:55 Embrace the Changes in Your Body
19:15 Men's Perspectives on Body Image and Self-Acceptance
21:46 Redefining Sexiness: Beyond the Physical
22:13 The Impact of Confidence and Comfort on Sexiness
28:32 The Importance of Compliments in Relationships
32:11 The Power of Feedback and Self-Acceptance
33:21 The Beauty of Imperfection: Embracing Your Body Post-Childbirth
37:53 The Impact of Physical Appearance on Self-Perception
37:53 The Incredible Impact of Feeling Good on Your Sexual Life
39:13 Practical Tips for Improving Body Image and Confidence
39:59 Positive Self-Talk and Compliments
42:18 Conclusion: Embracing Happiness and Confidence in Your Skin
 
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In this special edition which we recorded naked (!!), we cover the differences between transactional sex vs. deeper, more intimate and sensual connections. 
We share our personal journey of learning how to shift boundaries in the kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge erotic connections in all kinds of relationships. 
We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we will provide a few tips on how to communicate  intimacy in your relationship, so that you can harness the power of focusing on the present moment to have mind blowing experiences.
 
01:56 A bold start: we are recording NAKED today!
02:31 Exploring Intimacy Beyond the Norm
05:16 Personal Boundaries and Evolving Relationships
07:44 The Power of Sensuality 
17:55 The Impact of Trust and Respect in Sensual Encounters
22:48 The Essence of Sensuality: Being Present and Connected with Each Other
30:07 Navigating Safety and Comfort 
36:56 Is He Worthy Of You?
38:11 Exploring the Paradox of Intimacy in Swinging
 
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In this episode we talk about how non-monogomy can strengthen relationships, contrary to what many people fear. You’ll learn something seemingly counterintuitive: how can adding more “bodies'' into a relationship strengthen a bond? 
We unpack concepts like open communication, trust, honest conversations, respecting boundaries, and navigating complex emotions together. 
Allie shares how she made her man’s fantasy come true by organizing a surprise birthday party, where he got to play with a bunch of naughty secretaries in his office… While you might get excited by the hot details, this story is actually a great example of how communication and trust made the whole experience even stronger.
We’ll give you the ins and outs of how to prioritize the couple’s intimacy, desire, and mutual pleasure while maintaining a strong emotional connection with each other.
We also talk about: personal growth, how sharing fantasies can help you increase trust, how to communicate that there is something wrong by processing information before making a scene, and how to ask for what you need.
02:49 Exploring Swinging: Strengthening Relationships Through Shared Experiences
04:18 Allie’s POV
04:18 The Power of Communication and Boundaries in Swinging
04:48 Unleashing Fantasies: The Journey of Sharing and Exploring Together
05:11 Chiara’s POV
06:48 The Best Birthday Present: A Naughty Fantasy Come True 
15:56 Will’s POV
21:06 Chiara’s View On Respect
21:13 Navigating Challenges and Emotions in Swinging
26:31 The Importance of Confidence and Teamwork in Swinging
28:59 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics
40:36 “We Don’t Need This” 
42:59 A Magical Connection When Sharing Pleasure and Intimacy
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In this first episode we dive deep into the challenges that couples face in maintaining a fulfilling sex life, especially as responsibilities grow and the initial spark fades.
We have a very open and honest discussion about the importance of creating time for intimacy and sensuality - which is not just having “sexual intercourse” as your main goal.
We share our own experiences and learnings, such as how we communicated in tricky situations, how we made ourselves vulnerable and how to create a safe space for each other.
We also discuss how non-monogamy might be an option for some, as a catalyst for deeper connection and exploration beyond what traditional society teaches us.
02:16 Welcome to Our Sensual Journey
03:07 Reflecting on Past Relationships and Sexual Fulfillment
04:50 The Common Struggle of Maintaining Intimacy
06:46 Prioritizing Your Relationship Amidst a Busy Life
10:50 The Importance of Quality Over Quantity in Sexual Relationships
15:43 Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Impact on Our Relationship
22:18 The Role of Inner Work in Enhancing Sexual Connection
37:38 Advice for Couples Struggling with Intimacy
39:25 What Actually Worked for Us
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