Ignoring a narcissist is critical, and ignoring a narcissist is crucial when a narcissist tries to punish you. Narcissists love to get your reaction. As soon as they do, you are handing power away. And … when a narcissist hooks you in, everything you used to think is tipped upside down and turned on its head. We hand power away and can be significantly abused. Until we know better we think that combatting a narcissist is the answer, but it isn’t. IGNORING them is … and please learn the...

There is SUCH a deep soul familiarity to relationships with narcissists.   Are narcissists Soul Mates who we were meant to get it right with, but just couldn’t, or are they Twin Flames; deeply impactful souls called forth to surface and purge our darker pieces that they reflect, so that we can evolve?    In this blog article I share with you what I deeply believe to be the truth about this … regarding what VERSION narcissists are and WHY they are Soul Contracted to come into our...

This radio show is one that many of you have been asking for – some conclusive steps regarding how it break free from a narcissist and recover from narcissistic abuse. I understand how hard it can be when we don’t know how to recover, or even what it is that could help us. There is of course tons of information we can read on the net, and we may be given advice from lots of people, including family and friends. I felt the same for years, and that is why I am passionate about sharing my...

I get asked by people ALL the time …“Can you please explain to me Melanie HOW to self-partner?” And that is such a great question! As are these questions: Is self-partnering something that can become automatic? Is it essential for abuse recovery and even MORE than that? I believe it is … absolutely! I will even go as far as to say I believe self-partnering holds the key to not only our Highest Potential and the Game of Life … It also unlocks the literal power of All of Creation...

In Part One of this series, we looked at how to detach, and not a grant a narcissist narcissistic supply, and why this was so important. In this article – Part 2 I illustrate the 3 different ways we can try to deal with a narcissist – and the results of each And we also take a deep dive into the growing up of our traumatised parts that the narcissist could previous hook us with, and what that then looks like. I also answer specific questions from people in the Community about this...

There are many people in the Community who aren’t No Contact with narcissists. Maybe they are family members or you have to work with one … Or … maybe you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Or perhaps you are just not ready to let go yet. Whatever the circumstance, if you are still connected to a narcissist, please know it is possible to manage this and even have your rights upheld. Throughout this two-part series you will understand how and why.

Can we break free of the ongoing painful thoughts that can be so tortuous? Ones that … Bring us to our knees. Strip our Life-force. And leave us feeling so empty, broken and alone that we wonder how we can live, love and trust again. The answer is “YES!” Totally. Let me explain to you, with a deep dive into “how to” in Part 2.  Read along and join the conversation on the blog here. 

It is so frustrating and exhausting to have our heads go over and over and over what happened to us after narcissistic abuse. Why do we keep thinking about “what happened” and all the “what ifs” when we know we can’t change what happened? Maybe, despite you putting in a ton of effort to heal yourself, the “story” still keeps taking you down – not allowing you to move on. Stripping your Life-force. In this radio series we take a deep dive into WHY this is happening, and why is is...

This week’s episode is about two very important Quantum topics which I believe are pivotal for 2017. The realizing that time has sped up – and how to align oneself so as NOT to be “out of time” … meaning not living in the now and therefore not in the flow of Lifeforce and Wellbeing. I also discuss how the Feminine Collective Wounds are now rising up with great force to be released, and what this really means for females and males, as well as the healing of unity and humanity. This show may...

This week in Part Two, we take a deep dive into practical concerns when breaking up with a narcissist, which are not just heartbreaking and gut-wrenching – they turn our lives upside down. Things such as smearing, being replaced, trying to explain to others that you have been abused by someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, trying to have others understand that you are suffering from Traumatic Stress Disorder … as well as many other excruciatingly painful and stressful...

Why is it that when we break up with a narcissist we usually feel WORSE instead of get relief? And … What does it take to not just merely (and barely) survive from breaking up with a narcissist, but to actually Thrive as a result?  Find out in my two part series. Join the conversation with myself and other Thrivers on the blog.  

This week’s topic about “forgiveness” was inspired by my friend Sylvia. She really nailed it … regarding “Organic Forgiveness”, and as a result I sat down to write about the truth of the stages of “forgiveness”, what they produce and how they set us free. Ranging all the way from Non-forgiveness, to Logical Forgiveness to the higher states of Evolving, Radical and Compassionate Forgiveness … ultimately leading to Organic Forgiveness. I hope with all my heart that this article will...

This is a radio show many men have asked for. Within this article we do a deep dive into the characteristics of narcissistic females. What makes them tick? How can they turn from the most beautiful, loving, sensual compassionate women you could ever hope to meet, into an entitled being who is never happy, always finding fault and acting nastily and crazily? And what is the difference between narcissistic men and women – and are there any differences at all? I am really happy to bring...

Last week, in Part One, we explored the reasons why we fell for a narcissist and why it can be very difficult to leave and stay away.   And why, in this Community, we DO struggle to end it and break free, whereas other people just don’t … even if they were initially hoodwinked by a narcissist.   This week, in Part Two, I want to take a deep dive into the understanding of specifically why we were highly susceptible to narcissists, and may have felt (or still feel) it’s almost impossible to...

Why is it that some individuals who have a run in with a narcissist don’t get hooked and adversely affected, once the mask drops … … whereas some people fall head over heels, make excuses for the terrible behavior and eventually have their life torn to shreds?  This is a very important question to have answered … because within the answer is a vital key to break free from the trauma and ensure it never happens to you again.   This two-part radio show series will hopefully reveal the truth...

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When the very person we put our heart and soul into teared our life apart how on earth do we trust again? Learn how to regain your faith in people and rebuild your life in this radio show.  Come and join the conversation with myself and other Thrivers on the blog here.  

Aminath’s story is quite unique, and a little different to most of our Community Member’s backgrounds, because she came from a country and family torn by political unrest and fighting. Her father was incarcerated and her family was shunned and ostracised. Incredible shame and emotional wounds ensued. Aminath’s identity is protected in this interview, for a very good reason. She is a prominent person on a world stage (and incredibly humble about it). Her achievements and recognition came...

Many of us have been deeply committed to spiritual practices and seeking information in order to become more enlightened, evolved and better people, and to heal. But why in some circumstances do we feel like we have to always to make so much effort and as soon as we don’t that our anxiety and fears come back and engulf us? Is spiritual practice and seeking truths and information really helping us, or is it just another method to try to manage our wounds, that is keeping us separated from...

It near impossible to heal from narcissistic abuse when you are locked into the trajectory of just trying to survive ...  Where everyday tasks such as going to work, making appointments, meeting with people or planning out your day can send you into anxiety. Find out how to break free from this powerless state, stop the minute to minute panic attacks and gain peace so that you have a path to heal.    Join in the conversation with myself and other Thrivers on the...

Many people believe if a victim of narcissistic abuse is asked to take responsibility for what happened to them – that they are being “blamed” for the abuse they suffered. Naturally, there a large consensus assert this takes away the accountability from where it should be positioned - which is on the abuser. There is also a lot of belief that the words “blame” and “responsibility” mean the same thing. But do they? Does adopting these beliefs and paths create the same results? Today’s radio...

This week’s Empowered Love Radio Show is an interview with Sylvia, a regular and wonderful contributor to this Community. Sylvia’s journey was narcissistic abuse ever since a child, starting with her mother - and then four narcissistic love relationships in a row. Sylvia had always been able to get up and get on with it, until the last narcissist, who she described as her “big bad wolf”. Even though Sylvia endured extreme behaviour and terrible abuse, it wasn’t until she discovered details...

During Part 2, we will look at how we go beyond the holding of the narcissist accountable to caring for us, and how we can start orientating towards and generating care for ourselves. Why is it NOT true that our life is reliant on whether or not someone else cares for us? How can we empower our children not to need the narcissistic parent to care for them? How can we start authentically generating a Life that does reflect back love, support and care to us? Find out how in this radio show,...

This question has been coming up so much in the Community lately, and it is certainly always a really big theme in the Private Facebook 3 Keys Groups. It is one of the most invasive reasons why people can stay hooked to narcissists and keep breaking No Contact, because they are trying to stop the agony of not feeling cared for, and can’t stop trying to make the narcissist care for them … Or they give in to the massive emotional relief when the narcissist, after atrocious behaviour, hoovers...