“I’m giving this 4 stars based on my first listen. There’s some awesome story telling, however… Just listening to this opening episode, I’m noticing some glossing over of what could be abusive events.
I don’t think it’s fair to say your mother is “embellishing” and “being dramatic” when your dad is purposefully being vague and often seems cagey when it comes to remembering certain events very specifically. Your dad seemed to “forget” or “recall less” in times when he became aggressive. Convenient, eh? This definitely falls into a typical victim/abuser narrative. It’s my opinion that, if you’re going to discuss these types of scenarios, it’s important to not feed into stereotypes and create some discussion around inherently toxic or abusive behaviors. (As opposed to normalizing them or referring to the account of a potential victim as “being dramatic.”)
The fact that your mother had to file a restraining order against your father and that he was controlling about who she could or couldn’t date following the divorce are huge red flags, my friend.
Maybe you touch on this in later episodes, but I was really taken aback to hear those accounts, then you immediately following with calling your mother dramatic.”
Klaskah via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
12/12/21