A short screen play conversation between husband and wife sitting down to watch the show. Wife: Hey Hun - Can't wait to watch another episode of the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives with you tonight? Husband: Huh? The Packers are playing tonight. Sorry. I don't know what show you're talking about. Wife: Yes, you do. Mom Tok. I know you love it. Husband: Fine. I do love it. These Women are unhinged. and their husbands. Where are they? They should be arrested. I wish the show had more of their perspective in it. What do these guys do all day? Hold the phone while their wives dance around on a tik tok dressed in scandal? Wife: Ha! I knew you loved it. I wonder what our Mormon neighbors think about this show. We should go out to eat with them and get their perspective. There's no way they love this. Husband: Why wouldn't they? There's nothing negative whatsoever being said about the church. Sure, one of the husbands seems awfully hypocritical, judgmental and controlling. But I have a question: Are all girls nights like these? Just bagging on husbands endlessly. Can't believe anyone stays married after these girls nights. And these Mormon women. You might forget, but I was mormon too once. I went on a mission, it was the best 2 months of my life. Don't forget that baby. I was raised as Mormon as a Mormon can be. Back then there was no grace. Now they sing Amazing Grace in their church meetings on Sunday. Let me share a few thoughts on why this show has hit such a chord with the community, religious and otherwise. There's a key tension in Mormon culture, rooted in their deep emphasis on worthiness and external validation. This has created a need for constant social approval, not just from within the faith community but from the outside world as well. The doctrine of works, which emphasizes personal effort, can intensify the need for external signs that you're living correctly—especially when grace and internal peace feel less emphasized. So the women, the tiktok women, especially the ones that are the most Mormon, want to feel like whatever the hell they are doing is leading them to the celestial kingdom (heaven for Christians). So they make a spectacle of themselves, demanding approval for their actions. That expectation of public validation creates a different set of social dynamics—often uncomfortable or awkward for people who don't feel the same pressure to perform their morality. Mormonism’s focus on living a visibly righteous life to ensure one's standing with God and the community might feel like it’s part of this pressure.