How do you know you’re queer if you don’t even know that’s an option? It’s hard to imagine what we can’t see. Julia takes us through confusing early fantasies to landing that first girl-kiss to realizing what it means to love people with vaginas in all their gender presentations. Now she wants to start exploring anal play. Julia is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, queer, monogamous, and she doesn’t have kids. She still gets a regular period and describes her body as tall and thin. Julia has a non-binary partner, so we get to talk about how she navigates her partner’s gender dysphoria. Bookmark topics: Dating a non-binary partner Navigating dysmorphia Early fantasies Voyeurism and exhibitionism Queer/pansexual identity in the bedroom Losing lesbian virginity Learning what you like Butt stuff—how to start exploring anal play The Lowdown: favorite sex toys, strap-on penetration, c**t stimulation, masturbation Resources: Amory Jane – Anal sex classes - https://www.sheboptheshop.com/back-that-ass-up-anal-sex-101.html Anal toy - https://www.sheboptheshop.com/fuze-quattro.html Sponsors: *** Planned Parenthood Direct - download the app to get convenient and affordable birth control delivered to your door: http://www.ppdirect.app/api/safelink?name=inf_leahcarey_1121 To sign up for notification when it’s available in your state, go to: www.plannedparenthooddirect.org *** Dipsea Stories - go to www.dipseastories.com/goodgirls to get a 30-day FREE trial!     Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak