Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as "F." For much of their life, they imagined that "F" stood for "Failure" to be properly "Female." Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways for designers of both masculine- and feminine-coded clothing. Rain is also an activist working to make the world better for people of all genders, orientations, and more. Rain is currently assisting vulnerable people to escape Ukraine. What if gender is not just about g******s, but what we want from the world? In this episode, Rain explains what Gender Capitalism means and shares personal stories about how relationship dynamics and power can be fluid and chosen too. Rain is 32 years old and white. You'll hear that Rain speaks differently than many people because Rain eschews most types of categorization. When I asked what their gender identity is and what pronouns they use, they said, "I am I. You can call me with whatever language feels comfortable, but the most respectful thing is to just calm by my name." When I asked what their sexual orientation is, they said, "I love who I love. I lust who I lust, and I f**k who I f**k consensually." Their preferred relationship dynamic is open and communicative and tailored to the people who are in it at the time. Rain is partnered, grew up in a Christian home, and describes their body as tall and moderately muscular. To support Rain's work evacuating vulnerable and marginalized people from Ukraine, visit www.safebow.org. This episode is sponsored by Beducated – Get a free trial PLUS lock in a rate that’s 65% off FOREVER! Use the coupon code GOODGIRLSTALK. Sign up at: http://beducate.me/pd2208-goodgirlstalk Full show notes at https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/i-trained-to-be-a-dominatrix---rain-dove