Read the full show notes at www.barbarakandersen.com/23 where you’ll also find the 3 keys to take control of your own reality. This episode is about a topic that is on the one hand very basic – but on the hand quite essential for how you can effectively - and successfully - deal with your career. And your life!  Simply put, it's about working with the reality you’re in! Or dealing with the hand you’ve been dealt, you could say. I’ve noticed how we spend a fair bit of time and energy wishing that things were different from what they are. That's quite human and natural, but the problem is when we get stuck in dreaming of what the perfect state should be – and then lament about why the world isn’t like that.  And that’s just not very helpful when it comes to taking action to move forward in the direction you want to go. One of my favourite teachers taught me this great sentence that has inspired and helped me a lot: “When you fight reality, you lose. Not only every time – but every single time!” Now, that doesn’t mean that we have to like or approve of the reality. Or that we have to keep living with it. But it means that we have to acknowledge – or accept - that the reality is what it is right now.  You have to acknowledge the reality of how your organisation operates, what the rules are, what your supervisor’s choices are, etc. Because only when you do that, can you find out what is the best way to move on – given the reality you’re operating in. Read the full show notes at www.barbarakandersen.com/23