Matthew and Paul have a big announcement about the future of His and His. After 3 years of weekly audio podcasts, Matthew and Paul are turning their attention to a YouTube channel that will feature their classic banter, insightful commentary, and hilarious storytelling. Each episode will include extended video content for the His and His Family on Patreon. Subscribe to Matthew and Paul’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@matthewandpaulofficial Unlock bonus content:...

In Part 2 of their discussion, Paul reveals how Dawson’s Creek and Will & Grace (both of which premiered in 1998) not only blazed a trail for public perception of gay people, but inspired his own journey toward self-acceptance. Matthew (who had never seen either series) describes watching them for the first time with Paul. On the extended episode Matthew and Paul discuss a recent gay series they both loved (and, no, it wasn’t Heartstopper). Listen here:...

Matthew and Paul discuss the fictional gay characters and television storylines that inspired them during their coming-out years. Matthew recalls discovering Luke and Noah on the daytime soap opera “As The World Turns”, and how that experience gave him a sense of hope for the future. On the extended episode Matthew discusses a foreign language soap opera that had a similar effect on his life. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/80291345

Matthew and Paul are taking the week off to celebrate the birthday of Paul’s brother, who died of a drug overdose last year. Thank you for your love and support. Support this podcast on Patreon: Patreon.com/hisnadhis

Matthew and Paul answer listener-submitted questions about life, relationships, and past mistakes. Matthew reveals his desire to move to Canada, while Paul addresses the query, “Why penguins?” (If you know, you know.)  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul describe the mistakes they would “undo” if given the chance. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/79306763

Paul shares the story of his arrest and detainment in a maximum security prison. Paul reveals the circumstances of his arrest, how it felt to stand before a judge with his wrists and ankles chained, and the internal struggle he experienced while being transported to the facility he would call home for the next 100 days. Stay tuned for an update from Paul at the end of the episode.  Listen to Part 2 here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2suKom5UxbIKGygRl05fDs?si=6ce090dca69d4778 On the...

On this bonus episode of His and His, Matthew describes his experiences while attending a silent retreat (that ultimately changed his life). Matthew then reveals he will be attending another retreat this weekend: Does he anticipate another life-changing experience? Listen to the entire episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/78649747

Matthew and Paul are discussing the first gay-themed movies they ever watched. Matthew describes discovering the film “Latter Days” while on a brief trip away from home (and out from under the watchful eyes of his church), while Paul recalls the “endurance challenge” of watching the gay comedy “In & Out” with his mom (and her boyfriend) when he was just 13 years old.  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul describe the experience of rewatching “Latter Days” and “In & Out” as...

Matthew and Paul are answering some of your most burning questions. “How did you meet?”, “How to get over a straight crush?”, “Who is the first to make up after a fight?” and more. On the extended episode, Paul answers the question “Do you get frustrated when you can’t do something (because of your blindness)?”  Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/77830290

Matthew and Paul are discussing the gay-themed stage performances that inspired, awakened, and terrified them at pivotal moments in their childhoods. Matthew describes seeing male ballet dancers for the first time, while Paul talks about attending a play featuring a same-sex kiss. On the extended episode Matthew and Paul discuss a recent gay theater experience that left them both in tears. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/77642014

Matthew and Paul discuss their foster care journey which began one year ago. Matthew describes a recent conversation with a friend who grew up in the foster care system, while Paul explains what it was like to have dinner with a foster family over the Christmas break. Finally, Matthew reveals how his career as a music teacher has given him insights into the world of kids and parenting.  Listen to the full bonus episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/77293175

In this, Part 2 of The Paul Castle Project, Paul describes the “8 awkward years” between the first signs of blindness at age 8 and his final diagnosis at age 16. From failing at sports, to random embarrassing moments (like jumping into a strangers car), Paul explains why he began to identify as “clumsy” without realizing that he saw the world differently than his peers. On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul dive deeper into those 8 awakes years. Listen here:...

Matthew and Paul are talking about their lives as an interabled couples. Paul explains how his visual impairment affected his dating experience, while Matthew explains his initial thoughts and concerns upon meeting Paul. Matthew and Paul also describe ways in which being disabled both hinders and helps their relationship in unique ways. On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul reflect on some of the more humor moments born out of being interabled. Listen here:...

Matthew and Paul are wishing you a Happy New Year, as well as taking a look back to answer the question: What did 2022 teach us?  Unlock extended episodes: Patreon.com/hisandhis

In Part 2 of their conversation, Matthew and Paul continue using the virtual deck of cards created by the Gottman Institute in order to deepen connection and improve intimacy.  On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul open the Sex Questions cards. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/76084295

Matthew and Paul use a special deck of cards created by the Gottman Institute in order to deepen their connection and increase intimacy.  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul answer questions from the “spicy” salsa cards. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/75811110

As Matthew and Paul celebrate 3 years of marriage (and a total of 6 years together) they answer the question, “Has marriage changed our relationship?”  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul reveal the regrets they have about their wedding day. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/75539403

Matthew and Paul reflect on the day they became husbands. Matthew reveals the one thing that stressed him our the most, while Paul recounts a moment that left everyone in tears. At the end of the episode, Matthew and Paul offer an updated reflection, 3 years later!  Unlock extended episodes here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/75236822

Matthew and Paul are discussing the gay-themed books that inspired them during important life moments. Matthew talks about discovering the book “Call Me By Your Name” by Andre Aciman, while Paul explains why he fell in love with “A Home at the End of the World” by Michael Cunningham.  On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul discuss the movie adaptations of their chosen books. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/74836201

Matthew and Paul celebrate one year with Paul’s guide dog, Mr. Maple. Matthew describes his relationship with Paul’s service animal, while Paul discusses the many positive changes Maple has made in his life.  On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul reveal the results of Paul’s latest gene therapy clinical trial. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/74622273

Matthew and Paul discuss relationship age gaps. Matthew reflects on his first LTR with an older man, which prompted him to start dating younger guys exclusively. Paul admits he’s never been in a relationship with a younger guy, and once dated a man twice his age.  Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/posts/74323394

Introducing a new brand new series chronically Paul’s unique experience with a rare form of blindness. In this first episode Paul describes the very moment he knew something was wrong with his vision, and the reason he kept it a secret.  On the extended episode Matthew joins Paul for a conversation about overcome fears. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73945844

Matthew and Paul reflect on their trip to San Diego where Paul participated in the second stage of a gene therapy trial that may offer a treatment for Retinitis Pigmentosa. Paul describes the Human Maze and Matthew describes the experience from his perspective.  Listen to the full episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73690599

In honor of National Coming Out Day, Matthew and Paul share the stages of coming out as gay. From being called “gay”, to accepting their sexuality, to coming out and being outed — Matthew and Paul cover the many steps (and missteps) of the coming out journey.  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul offer advice to listeners who are considering coming out. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73393002