SUBSCRIBE to the new "POSITIVELY SEX! WITH LILA" podcast on APPLE PODCASTS (or wherever you like to get your podcasts) & never miss an episode!    Get ready for a 46 episode season of Sex Ed, with Pleasure! Host Lila, Intimacy Specialist & founding member of the premier sex-positive intentional community in New York, explores intimacy of all kinds in this sex-positive talk show on timely, titillating, tender, & taboo topics. Her guests are pro-Dommes, therapists, kink...

"Positively Sex!" Lila's live interactive audio show, is a winner of Clubhouse's Creator First program. PS! unravels titillating, tender, & sometimes taboo subjects, including open relationships, slutdom, kink, & countless other topics we're all curious about, but often too inhibited to discuss. In this pilot episode, "Sex @ a Distance," Lila, her Sex-Positive Mod Squad, & special guest Cindy Gallop (of Make Love Not Porn), discuss nudes, host a Best Sext contest, & offer best...

In this episode (an installment of Alexa Martinez’s "that sex chick" podcast), I share the orientation I lead at my last play party — which is a Facebook-safe euphemism for a sex party — in its entirety! Both of us have found it’s what lots of people want to know about when they discover it’s a) something we’ve got a fair amount of experience with, and b) something we’re willing to talk about publicly. So here! We made you an episode.

Hello my horizontal lovers, my intimacy investigators, my horizontalists! horizontal is the podcast about intimacy of all kinds, recorded while lying down (and usually, while wearing robes).  With few exceptions, our conversations are languorous, meandering, and long-form, as though post-coital, or stargazing, or staring out onto the open road in the wee hours of a very long road trip. It’s a private conversation made public. It’s consensual eavesdropping. Typically on horizontal, each...

In this quickie, I lie down with Lisa Ann Markuson, also known as LAMARKS, queer cis femme bisexual woman boss, founder + CEO of creative agency Ars Poetica, (which provides, among other things, experiential poetic entertainment for events and happenings). Come lie down with us at a pajama party in the before-time, at Hacienda Studio in Bushwick, Brooklyn, as LA tells us a tale titled, “In Fact, a Switch Hitter.”

This is Season 4, my Season of Experiments. The experiment of this episode is my very first mash-up. In this part, I tell Devin the story of Hamilton & the Hondalorian, and we talk about connecting across distance, phone calls vs. video calls, charting-new-territory friends and rerun friends, the nutrients of digital communication & joy of sexting, the Seamlessification of dating, resilience, rejection, & confidence, & icing on Tinder. For part two, become a patron!...

In this and the following episode, I lie down with Iena: vast lover of womankind, rope aficionado, photographer, former porn producer, and sadist extraordinaire. We traverse from Iena’s 4 year-old erections, nudie mags at 5, his obsession with newsstands & full bush, 10 years of sexual mentoring, an abiding love of t**s, foreplay & the orgasmic platform, and his first sexual experience, which includes a cruise, a crew, a short black bob, & some bushes.

This is Season 4, my Season of Experiments. The experiment of this episode is … poetry. You may recognize the subject (and the love affair) of the piece titled “climaxes and denouements” from my part two with Bevin, episode 62. we can be benefits, but not friends. The second poem, “exquisite cupboards,” was inspired by a disappointing young lover here in Bali. Does he know he’s the muse? Yes he does. They are both love poems, or, shall I say, lost-love poems. Come lie down with me!

Hello horizontal lover. horizontal is the podcast about intimacy of all kinds, recorded while lying down. You’re listening to Season 4, my Season of Experiments. During this season, I’m playing with form and format, length and structure, context and content. I’ll be including mash-ups with other podcasts, themed episodes, crossovers, and shows with segments, among other things. Unlike the first three seasons, most of Season 4 will be recorded remotely, so I’m often horizontal across the...

In this and the following 3 episodes, I lie down with the delicious Kelsey Grant. Kelsey is a Love Educator, an incisive writer, a boundaries expert, a singer, and a powerfully tender woman. She has a generous laugh, and her wisdom is free of b******t. In my first experiment with Kelsey, we discuss nourishing female friendship, mother-wounds, getting kicked out of the house, emotional release & the neighbors, swamping, resisting the codependent parental undertow, & healing by...

This is the second episode of my four-part arc with Lemarc Thomas, global matchmaker and relationship expert. We discuss the differences between traditional matchmaking and Lemarc’s work, his 4-step process, love coaching vs. therapy, being our full rainbow & sharing our crazy, how to not to date like a teenager, non-negotiables & deal-breakers, cultivating communities that will hold the love we meet, The Matchmaking Experiment, becoming a matchmaker, and his signature love advice.

In the first four episodes of Season 4, I virtually lie down with Lemarc Thomas, global matchmaker, relationship expert, sweetheart, psychology-versed purveyor of kindness, native St. Helenian, marriage equality advocate, husband to Michael, and, as he has been dubbed by The Telegraph, “the gentle but determined Cupid.” In this, my first horizontal experiment with Lemarc, he interviews me as though I were his newest matchmaking client.

In this quickie, I lie down with Christopher Burris. Christopher Burris is an actor, director and visionary creative from Asheville, North Carolina. In this episode, Christopher tells us a story about driving while Black, his best friend Satchmo, a Sponge Bob car, contact lenses, relationshipping, & really, really seeing. Come lie down with us in Bushwick, Brooklyn, for a story Christopher titled, “Black Men Can’t Drive.”

I lie down with Kai Mata, thoughtful rock star, articulate activist, outspoken woman with a bamboo guitar living a love life of liberation in a country that expects its women to be neither outspoken nor liberated. We talk about falling in love for the first time (and with a girl), coming out before she was ready, a fateful spring break, PDA in Indonesia, modesty, menstruation, temples, & tampons, illegal sex toys, and the fact that our current sexual partners don’t define our sexual...

In this episode, I lie down with myself. I share the WOC Podcasters solidarity statement, my personal commitment to ongoing anti-racist action, the names of a few of the many Black lives lost to police brutality, and the story of that time I didn't talk about race (for 11 years) and how that is a textbook example of white fragility and privilege. Come lie down with me in Ubud, Bali, Indonesia.

In part two, I lie down with Eri, author of "Relationship Agreements," as she continues her origin story. We pick up with Eri’s sexy Seattle life, BDSM as a highway to vulnerability, the art of submission, aftermath of a fight or regrettable incident, being seen, heard, & loved, reprogramming people’s erotic lives, open relating vs. open relationships, and how the longtime nomad couple finally settled in Bali.

In which I lie down with Eri Kardos and Jaymin Patel: world travelers, long-time digital nomads, co-parents of two young children, and American expats in Bali. Eri is a Relationship Coach, Public Speaker, and the author of the book Relationship Agreements. Jaymin is a serial entrepreneur, serial author, Public Speaker, and creator of The Integrated Father. In this, part one, we told our comic-book-style origin stories, which, for both Eri & Jay, begin with religion and conclude with...

This quickie was recorded live in June 2019 at horizontal storytelling: the summer pride edition. We all donned rainbow pajamas, noshed on milk and cookies, and curled up together, all 50 of us, to listen to five storytellers from across the LGBTQIA+ community, one after the other. She tells me a story about bullying, slut-shaming, physical abuse, divorce, dancing, and liberation. Come lie down with us in Bushwick, Brooklyn

This is THE 100TH EPISODE OF HORIZONTAL! I lie down with: Kristi Ann, Mirelle (briefly), Steve Dean, Jillian, Owen, Tiana & Orion, Venus & Jason, & Patrick (my ex). We discuss the experiences Jillian and I had with the man that we both dated, disassociation, healthy narcissism, NPD, opt-ins and opt-outs, normative behavior, and needing other minds to support us in not losing ours. This episode is also unlike any other, because, with Owen present, we have the benefit of a...

I lie down with Jillian Richardson, creator of The Joy List & her housemate Dennis E. Sarkozy, Lifestyle Designer. We discuss Dennis’s communal roots, his mother’s matriarchal strength, his biological father who preferred not to be a father, and his kindergarten crushes. Jillian & I grapple with my intentions. We discuss Jillian's public image, the Wounded Healer syndrome, and how she induced her parents to join her for a 5-day family therapy retreat. For parts 3 & 4:...

I lie down with my friend Jillian Richardson, anti-loneliness crusader, creator of The Joy List, author of Unlonely Planet, and Dennis, Lifestyle Designer, co-lead of Personal Development Nerds, her housemate, her chosen family, her brother. In this episode, I clear the air with Jillian after our cancelled sleepover event. I also express how I feel about Dennis. We discuss the difference between being drawn to and being attracted to, sexual vs. sensual energy, The Touch Gauntlet... and I...

In this, part 2 of 4, we discuss the belief that passion has an expiration date, making out, Dino’s first heartbreak, celibacy, and the freedom in monogamy. Leidy tells of her first obsessive teenage love, fondling in the living room, and smothering. We discuss moving towards what feeds you and mindful touch. Leidy begins the tale of her first big love affair, involving a large bribe, Turks & Caicos, 2 playing cards, a work romance, one Italian mother, and a grand gesture. And that was...

I lie down with Leidy Dahiana, and Dino, her husband and soulmate. Leidy is an undulating, curvaceous, mischief of sensuality. She is a Licensed Erotic Blueprints™️ Coach, a sexuality sherpa. Dino is a former pro basketball player who dedicates his days to helping people live a pain-free active life. In this episode, we talk about Latina rules, chickenheads, & the porn section of her family’s video stores. We talk about Dino’s high school friends, & not allowing family or marriage...

In this quickie, I lie down with Diana Oh. Diana Oh is a Force. An instigator, an activist, an actress, a singer, a creator of myriad kinds. A gutsy, glorious queer theatre-maker, happening-curator, and music-creator. They are the architect of {my lingerie play}: installations, performances, and concerts which include public declarations of body positivity. In this quickie, Diana tells us stories about queer liberation, reparations, sex in a theatre, and inviting a roomful of people out on...