I lie down with Kai Mata, thoughtful rock star, articulate activist, outspoken woman with a bamboo guitar living a love life of liberation in a country that expects its women to be neither outspoken nor liberated. We talk about falling in love for the first time (and with a girl), coming out before she was ready, a fateful spring break, PDA in Indonesia, modesty, menstruation, temples, & tampons, illegal sex toys, and the fact that our current sexual partners don’t define our sexual orientation.