The winter can pose unique challenges and opportunities to our practice of making love, courage, justice, and liberation. Tune in for a couple of things to remember and consider as you move through the world this winter. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast.

There's the idea of freedom and the somatics of freedom. Today's episode tackles how and why we should learn to cultivate the sensations of freedom in our bodies. Welcome. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To...

Who's ready for a mid-life crisis?! Me! You? Come on in for a lovingly honest and personal conversation about those feelings of falling apart –– midlife, or any other time.  New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To...

Ethic. Process. Aspiration. Practice. Come learn what else UNcontrol is and means and why we should engage it in the work of personal and collective freedom. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make...

Belonging. Repair. Lines of difference. Today, guest Alli Myatt and I discuss radical relationships — especially at work. What makes them hard, what makes them complex, and what makes them beautiful. AND the things we need to unlearn so we can be in radical relationship with one another. Plus, a 🔥🔥🔥 book/resource list you don't want to miss out on here.  New Feature Alert: Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website. Now you can download written transcripts, share them,...

Becoming a bad winner and a good loser is ... a little counterintuitive, to say the least. Learn how and why in this episode. And what all of that has to do with our collective and personal practice of liberation.  New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. ...

We all perform. We've all been socialized to perform. And: none of us are truly free in a performance. Today's episode will take you into the what, why, how of performance and assimilation, and leave you with reflection questions for your healing and UNperforming. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you...

The UNschool is now in session. Applications open today, April 10th, and will close April 19th at midnight. The summer semester on UNperforming begins May 1st and ends July 28th.   Learn more here.  

The path of healing is paved in UNlearning. In today's episode, we'll hear examples of what there may be to UNlearn and how that UNlearning has played out in our guest's life. Featuring the incredible storyteller and doula Chrystal Toop, we take a journey survivalism, enoughness, wholeness, and healing. All through the lens of what there is for each of us – for all of us – to UNlearn. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website,...

There is bracing. And there is breaking. In today’s episode, learn why the latter is so essential to healing, to liberation, and to creation. Featuring the amazing liminalist Oceana Sawyer, this is a conversation about what we gain when we “lose” (control, fear, conditioning…), and what can be received only when we truly open. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them,...

What's the thing that: a) humans do constantly, b) shapes our life in resounding ways, and c) we're never taught how to do? –– think. Our thoughts can be assets or liabilities in our life, and laura shares 5 tips in this episode to help all of us think a little better. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while...

What––for you––is the single most essential skill or tool right now in your practice of justice?––love?––courage? That's the question the podcast will invite a whole new suit of guests to share and explore in the coming new year. laura kicks us off with her own reflections to the question, and her answers may surprise you. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection...

When we learn to think of consent as a way of being and a practice in ALL domains of our life, we expand the work of justice, liberation, and love. Join laura for a discussion about why we should think about embodying consent across all our life, how to deepen our practice of consent when making requests of others, and how to deepen our embodiment of consent when saying yes/no/maybe. We'll also talk about the direct link between consent and anti-oppression/anti-racism. And of course, there's...

Sometimes called 'scarcity thinking,' laura breaks down and reframes the notion of scarcity – what is is, where it comes from, and how to heal it. Tune in for concrete suggestions, reflection questions, and tools for healing scarcity all through a lens of equity. While this episode is designed for individuals, it's also applicaple to teams and organizations struggling with scarcity orientation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can...

Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look  at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more! New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you...

We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our way of BEing. Resources from the podcast: Read My Grandmother's Hands, by Resma Menakem. Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Link to become a patreon.

No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it. Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Link to become a patreon.

😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm. Episode Resources: Send laura a question from the episode. Link to become a patreon. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️

Most of us consider selfishness a bad thing...but what if that's an oppressive lie? Episode Resources: Link to become a patreon! Reflection Questions: How do/have you used the word selfish against other people? How has the word selfish been used against you? How do/have you used the word selfish against yourself? How do you want to (re)define selfish?   Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️

laura tackles a listener question from episode 82: "How can you personally tell the difference between feeling an emotion and inflaming an emotion?"   Do you have questions from any of the episodes? Let laura know here: https://www.speakpipe.com/laurabrewer  

High expectations can be helpful -- and they can create harm. For ourselves, and for others. How do we know the difference? What can be done to mitigate the harm? All in today's episode.    Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove     Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode83

Let's talk about the importance of feeling emotional pain and "negative" emotion in both our lives and in the work of justice. In this episode, you'll learn ways to feel sh*tty -- better.    Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode82   Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove   If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice...

Join host laura as we dig into the whats, whys, and hows of aliveness. What prevents us from being and feeling alive? What helps us be and feel alive?    Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode81   Questions from the episode for reflection: What does aliveness mean to you? What do you need to be more alive in and for your own life? What would you like the point of your life to be -- today? Where are you distracted from being alive right now? What about life are you...