Energetics of long-term attraction The masculine/feminine opposing polarity is the energy we associate with "attraction" When this is in balance (as in, both partners are embodied in their core essence), the attraction and passion lasts decades Without this, you may have lots of love, but no attraction  Self-love This is what keeps your attachment issues well-managed, and causes you to radiate from the inside out When you come to your relationship with a full cup, you are open to connection without needing to resist it or put pressure on it Without this, you will feel anxious and unsafe even in an otherwise good relationship  Communication + Understanding This is the "bridge" between you, and it's also what keeps the energy clean and flowing freely for life When these skills are developed, you can handle ANYTHING with your partner and you will feel connected and bonded When this is missing, the resentment and upset feelings build up over time and eventually mess with attraction and potentially your self-esteem Workbook