118 episodes
Men, This Way Bryan Reeves & Tait Arend | Soulfire Productions
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4.9 • 139 Ratings
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Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.
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Conflict to Connection: How to End & Repair Unnecessary Conflict
“Sometimes the initiation of conflict is really a bid for connection. It’s really a desire to figure out how we can get this connection going again. A thriving intimate relationship through conflict and repair, it’s vital for us. It’s vital for our health, for our longevity and for our children. But what we need as men in the world is a tool that we can use because we have to learn how to repair.” – Tait
Today on Men, This Way:
04:40 – The Illusions of Conflict
09:38 – The 3 real reasons why you and your partner are having arguments.
15:30 – The most important things to do when you don’t feel safety and trust
18:35 – Recognizing your behavior patterns to learn how to build connection
22:53 – How most men learned the worst strategies to handle conflict
30:00 – The 3 stages of conflict in healthy relationships
34:00 – Why 69% of the disagreements that happen inside of relationships are unresolvable
35:36 – The 2 different conflict motivations of Masculine & Feminine energies
40: 39 – The 4 Steps (4 S’s) to Mastering Conflict and Repair
47:11 – Details about our Elevate your Relationship program
47: 55 – How language needless can transform your relationship
55:35 – Something you can do if you are experiencing unresolved conflicts and are uncertain how to resolve them.
Connect with Bryan & Tait:
Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com
This show is produced by Synchro Social
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116. Are You Sure Your Partner Feels Safe With You?
“Getting into a relationship is one of the most courageous acts that men and women can have. Each of us are bringing our own pain and suffering into a relationship, and now trying to work it out between two couples. Not only that, everybody's walking into a new relationship with a 100% breakup rate prior to getting into that relationship. So how do we be in a relationship, holding what we're holding, and create safety and trust for one another in ways that matter, that can help us calm our nervous system? And nobody trains us how to do it.” - Tait
Today on Men, This Way:
4:00 - Understanding how women don’t feel safe in the world
14:10 - Ways in which men unintentionally damage trust in relationships
22:00 - The gifts that women bring to a relationship
26:00 - The result of men’s lack of presence
29:50 - Breaking down the idea of “f*ck your feelings”
33:50 - How men don’t feel safe in relationships
40:00 - Identifying criticism delivered unskillfully
43:20 - The four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse
48:10 - Having freedom in relationship
53:15 - 3 steps to connect with your partner
Connect with Bryan & Tait:
Roadmap to Thriving in Relationship: training.elevaterelationship.com
Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com
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115. Our Experience Surrendering Control to Gain Real Power
"Pretending to have control where we don't only leads to losing ourselves in the chaos...Embracing this, we learn to dance with uncertainty, finding true power not in control, but in acceptance and adaptability.” - Tait
Today on Men, This Way:
6:30 - The overwhelming complexities of life and finding power in surrender
9:30 - The illusion of control and how embracing uncertainty can lead to greater power and freedom
17:20 - The importance of shifting from trying to exert power over others to sharing power with them
22:00 - Preparing your children vs. controlling them
26:40 - How men isolate themselves & understanding “Mr. Nice Guy”
34:40 - The paradox of power and a simple formula for creating change in life
40:40 - Power with vs. power over: “Everything in the forest is the forest”
43:50 - Living inside uncertainty and utilizing it as a tool
46:00 - The practice of real surrender; allowing messiness vs. the need to “fix”
53:20 - Power leaks: letting go of behaviors that numb emotions, like pornography use; the impact of negative self-talk & compassion; setting boundaries and speaking up for oneself
1:03:30 - Vulnerability as a superpower
1:07:15 - How to add power to your life: the role of habits in standing in your power
Connect with Bryan & Tait:
Referenced book: The Surrender Experiment
Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com
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Confronting Masculine Checkout Syndrome in Relationships
“One of the things we have to be willing to do as men is look at what the impact our actions and our lack of presence is having on ourselves and on the people that we care about most.” - Tait
Today on Men, This Way:
Commitment challenges men face with fully choosing partners
Presence in relationships & how inconsistency leads to a lack of safety and trust
“Masculine Checkout Syndrome,” emotional and mental disengagement in men
Reflections on how past behaviors impacted relationships
Practical methods for improving daily connection and presence
Connect with Bryan & Tait:
Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com
This show is produced by Soulfire Productions -
A New Era Begins: 40 Years of Friendship, Masks Men Wear, Embracing Honesty
"As men, we paint our faces the best we know how, and we go out into the world and try to be good men, fathers, workers, providers, lovers — and in large measure, because we don’t know what we're doing, we end up leaving a trail of tears behind for ourselves and for the people that we love the most. It's not because we don't want to do better, it's because we haven't been shown how."
Welcome to the relaunch of "Men, This Way," where Bryan and his childhood best friend, Tait Arend, step into their roles as co-hosts, aiming to amplify the impact they have on men striving to live a good life.
Today on Men, This Way:
The evolution of Bryan and Tait's 40-year friendship
Four masks men wear to navigate societal pressure
Personal journeys toward honesty and vulnerability
The importance of deep, trustful male relationships
Personal Growth Formula: Insight plus action equals meaningful change
Connect with Bryan & Tait:
Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com
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Men, This Way - The Trailer
Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.
Customer Reviews
How I wish I would have found this sooner.
You guys are great! I found your podcast the day after my wife and I decided to divorce and have been listening to previous episodes ever since. The episodes that really ring true with me I’ve listened to multiple times. Your show convinced me to seek out a therapist and open up about things that I have kept in to almost 20 years. It’s hard to do, but I kept thinking of your show and telling myself to just get it out.
What you guys are doing is great and I look forward to future shows and seeing where this journey leads. I have hidden from and feared my feelings for to long. Nobody should have to do that.
Thanks guys.
Refreshing
I've been intrigued by some things I've read/heard from Bryan and just had to give this podcast a liste...even though I'm the wife, not the husband. It's refreshing, as it makes a person feel things may be easier than we thought in some ways. It reminds me of some advice I've read lately to "try softer" instead of trying harder. I encountered an occasional "F word," which is not my preference, but if you don't mind or can overlook that there's some good advice here.
Support for men
I’ve been following Bryan for years and love how he truly cares about men’s work and the journey we are all on. Great podcast.