Get 10 FREE meals at ⁠https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone⁠. Visit ⁠⁠skims.com⁠⁠ and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout. Get up to 40% off at ⁠cozyearth.com/NOTFOREVERYONE⁠. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ This podcast is like a box of chocolates…you never know what you’re gonna get. Caroline and Jess discuss how adventure can be simply leaving the house, some of their instinctive feelings about their futures, how “you’re welcome to join” feels like a...

Babies…why is it so hard to say no? Jess and Caroline are going to break it down. First up, saying no to an old friend who you don’t vibe with anymore. Second, how to say no to your mom when she’s pushing religion on you. Third, how to say no to…yourself. They talk dynamics, they talk showing up calmly, they talk boundaries. And they push back when necessary. Plus, are they really scientists? They discuss a few lighter topics like stretching, pigeons (!?), and Jess gives her own example of...

Who’s ready to get meta?! Jess and Caroline reflect on their podcast partnership—on their growth, their dynamic, and their challenges. They answer one of their most-asked questions: what was the process of picking each other as podcast partners? And liken the experience to a marriage. They discuss how they work out dilemmas in their personal relationships, the contrast between problem solving and listening, and how pausing during an argument can help people articulate better. Plus, a...

Visit https://cozyearth.com/notforeveryone and use our exclusive 40% off code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ Happy Halloween! Let’s complain about it. Jess opens the episode with a specific fall issue that needs to be aired, Caroline talks the dynamics of crafting, and then the two commiserate over their clumsiness, which has resulted in the breaking of sentimental items. Plus, neighborly decorum, coffee shop decorum, and airport decorum are discussed in the face of a few annoying experiences.  Things...

Get 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone. __ Who has two thumbs, hosts a podcast, and is ready to put their own advice to use? Jess and Caroline! C takes us through two boundaries she set this past week and how she felt doing it, and J discusses the ups and downs of moving in with her partner. Hypotheses are nothing without experiments! Plus, the pair ruminate on decorating with a partner and the language of design, before diving into thoughts on an upcoming group...

Visit ⁠skims.com⁠ and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout. __ This week the lover is alone in a hotel room with the sniffles, and she just needs a little bit of self care time. Away from the stressors of home ownership and work dinners, it's just her and your topic submissions tonight. First, a WHATADO on setting boundaries with parents - which Jess decides to treat as an opportunity to challenge the listener in question. Sure sure, boundaries shmoundaries,...

This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to ⁠https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/⁠ to try it today. __ This is an episode of complaints, and it starts out with a new long-titled segment about places where people are not allowed to take videos, lest they suffer Caroline’s wrath. Jess chimes in with Instagram stories that are not allowed, and then the pair wonder together why more women don’t name children after themselves.  Then, a listener WHATADO about how to work with a friend who...

Ever heard of micro acts of feminism? No? Well consider that problem solved because Jess and Caroline have all the details. Listen in on to find out what that even means, how they define their relationships to feminism, how they own their strengths, and how we can learn from the women around us.  Things get a little spicy later on as Caroline takes us through an intimacy delight adventure tip, which leads into a conversation about the saga of orgasming, and a listener’s thoughts on sex with...

Anyone else feeling lost when it comes to their career? Well, lucky for you, Jess and Caroline know just WHATADO. The duo cover how much to sacrifice when trying to change careers, coworkers who don’t work and complain anyway, how to deal with a loss of passion, interview strategies, and how to know when it’s time to move on. Plus, Jess confesses to a mistake made on Slack, and Caroline has a hot take about eating in the shower. Best of all, this recording was done in person, and there sure...

Visit skims.com and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout. Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/NOTFOREVERYONE. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ People with sleep issues, raise your hands! Jess and Caroline talk all things sleep, from weird and wild Zoloft dreams to their insomniac partners to a new life-changing sleep schedule. This leads to a deeper conversation about dealing with their own discomfort when it comes to other people’s pain. Then, a WHATADO: how do you...

This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. __ It’s Hater Hour, babies! Caroline takes us through the many steps in her career path this week, with key takeaways along the way. She covers using disparate skills to create something new, the logistics of quitting your day job, and how to sit in discomfort to make your dreams happen.  She also provides some deep takes on what “passion” even means when it comes to your work, cultivating...

Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/notforeveryone. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ After the long weekend, Jess and Caroline have important business to cover. They’re circling back on the F/M/K situation from last week (with new, helpful info!), on Jess’s difficult conversation, and on Jess’s hack for saving money. But that’s not all on this assortment of matters: they also discuss weird baby names, mispronunciations, and why moving sucks so bad. But it’s not over yet! Caroline has done some...

Shop now at ⁠https://skims.com/⁠. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. __ Anyone else feeling wormy? Jess and Caroline are, but that doesn’t stop them from going hard off the bat on a WHATADO about a listener’s boyfriend and best friend hanging out way too much. They discuss what setting boundaries really means, embracing anger, and knowing there will be discomfort...

Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/notforeveryone. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ It’s getting hot in here, so gather up your clothes…and get rid of them? Before diving into hot takes, Jess and Caroline talk budget hacks and clothing degradation, culminating in a few ideas for beating the consumerist mindset and some thoughts on what indulging really means. And then, the main event: hot takes galore. Jess and Caroline argue, research, and kook out about emotional support animals, finding...

Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/notforeveryone. __ Good morning, kooks! Jess and Caroline start this week’s episode off with a nightmare date story featuring the Spy Museum in DC, a forgotten triple-date memory, a very fortunate run-in with a listener, and the most unexpected (or perfectly on brand?) pump-up music you’ll ever encounter.  In true Not For Everyone fashion, things get deep when Jess asks Caroline how often she cries. They discuss why we cry, emotional...

This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. __ Your fav duo is back and more upset about things than ever. A WHATADO about a husband being too flirty with friends leads Jess and Caroline to discussions about gray areas in asking people out, partners hanging out with people of the opposite sex, and the difference between conversations and ultimatums. They might even rethink their initial stances on this one. Plus, a new fable, “How the...

Dear listener, Enclosed is a letter from the heart. It contains: • Advice on that friend who won't refund you for a trip you could no longer make • A reminder that almost every relationship let-down is more gradual than it feels in real time • A mindset shift that will help you build and maintain more fulfilling friend groups • The worst TikTok advice out there, and how to flip it to be semi-useful Plus, stories of love and back shots - from your host Jess herself, as well from your...

This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at ⁠shopify.com/notforeveryone/⁠. ___ This week, Jess and Caroline add to a conversation that seems to affect just about everyone: body image. They go through some listener DMs and cover topics like acknowledging the variability of body image, accepting your body when you’re chronically ill, and how to deal with family members who can’t stop talking about your weight. Plus, a few takes on how body hindsight is...

Welcome back to Not For Everyone, where this week, Jess and Caroline think people need to cool it. They discuss how people don’t know how to be properly annoyed anymore, how people can’t stop demeaning Americans on the internet, and how people go insane in the comment sections. This leads to some deeper conversations about how we get lost in what a love story “should” look like, a Sex and the City dating fallacy, and why throwing shade isn’t actually that bad. Plus, we get to the meat of...

In today’s episode, we’ve got just about every Segment™ in the book for you. Jess and Caroline’s scientific minds put together a theory on attractiveness, a reason we say “you know?” so much, and a realistic take on disappointing people. Also, there’s a NEW segment, folks: Lady Snapple Facts, the first of which brings an often forgotten revelation about wearing skirts in public. Plus, a WHATADO: let’s say the first date was great, sparks flying, humor matching, conversation flowing...and...

This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/⁠⁠⁠⁠ to try it today. This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/notforeveryone/. __ It’s Hater Hour, kooks—and Caroline is ready to bear it all.  She jumps into a WHATADO about a deep friend betrayal: can they make it right? Or do you have to cut your losses? Caroline shares first hand examples of similar situations, offers some ideas for helping friends who are in...

It’s a miracle: Caroline is healed. But the source of her healing is so unexpected that it leads Jess and Caroline down dangerous conversation roads, like discussing dreams and someone identifying as an ~empath~. They talk about how to handle dark mental health days and discuss the difference between self love and self worth, and what to do when the idea of self worth becomes damaging.  Plus, a few relationship quandaries and WHATADOs: dealing with opposing preferences around the house,...

We know you’ve been wondering what to do lately, and we’re here to deliver. Get ready to dive into some friendship-related WHATADOS: how to handle that flaky bff, what it means to cling to the idea of someone, tips for hosting old friends, and strategies for helping a friend stop talking about their ex.  But first, let’s talk work troubles. What does it mean to actually like your job, and to want to put effort into it? And how can you give yourself a break when you’re aiming to be the best...

It’s summer, ya kooks! Except…is it? Caroline and Jess debate when summer actually begins before launching into a WHATADO: how to dress for summer when you’re a curvy honey. Personal style is the conundrum that will never die. They cover wearing color, anti-chafing tips, and their mother’s thoughts on their changing bodies.  Plus, Jess has a relationship realization worth a deep dive: how to handle the emotional onslaught you feel after getting critical feedback from a very steady, rational...