Pieces of You Shadia Tobkin, Christine Friberg, Sarah Weisman and Erin Ditmarson

In today’s episode, we make a special announcement! We update you on developments in our lives and what the future of the podcast looks like.
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Forgiveness is a process that takes time, patience and emotional balance. Today we explore the boundaries around forgiveness and how to deal with them.
The first step in this process is to understand where you are emotionally. You need to be able to identify what feelings you are experiencing, what thoughts you are having, and how these emotions make you feel. For example, if your mother died from cancer but it was not your fault, then there may be some guilt or shame around your loss.
If you can't forgive yourself for something that's not your fault then try using radical responsibility as a way of dealing with this guilt or shame. Radical responsibility means acknowledging that we have no control over everything that happens in life and that we need to be compassionate with ourselves and our need to be perfect. It's about accepting the responsibility for our choices and actions, taking care of ourselves, and letting go of the need to control or change everything.
It is important to note that forgiveness is not forgetting what happened, but choosing not to allow the event to dictate how we live our lives and how we feel about ourselves.
In episode 12 of season 2 we explore and unpack the concept of forgiveness as a process. We discuss what it really means to forgive and why it can be so difficult. As always, you’ll hear some of our own stories of loss and forgiveness, as well as ideas for understanding and practicing forgiveness in your everyday life.
Resources:
Adams, B. (1993). Please Forgive Me. On So Far So Good. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x8wPt8xarE
The Center for the Empowerment Dynamic, https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/about
Henly, D. (1989). The Heart Of The Matter. On The End Of The Innocence. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x_8NEKEZlQs
Kemp, C. (2019). Why Forgiveness is Unnecessary. TedXBearCreekPark. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uJ1n8iF4zs
Sutton, J. The Psychology of Forgiveness: 10+ Fascinating Research Findings. Positive Psychology. https://www.positivepsychology.com/psychology-of-forgiveness
00:00 Introduction2:22 The effects forgiveness have on our bodies and mental health5:16 Defining forgiveness6:56 Who is forgiveness for?7:58 The importance of radical responsibility and emotional regulation for forgiveness10:44 Dealing with boundaries around forgiveness13:47 Another view on forgiveness: is it necessary?19:03 Talking about receiving forgiveness for our flaws22:02 What about self forgiveness?
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Episode 11 of season 2 is all about children and grief. We get to speak with special guest Katie Eisold about her experience working with grieving children and families. We discuss the prevalence of grief in childhood and some of the different ways it can show up, along with ideas for supporting both grieving children and caregivers. We open up about our own experiences as grieving kids and teens, reminding others they are not alone, while also being careful to honor and recognize each person’s experience of loss as meaningful and unique.
Resources:
7 Types of Grief - whatsyourgrief.com/types-of-grief-2/ 
New York Life Foundation’s Bereavement Survey Findings - 
newyorklife.com/assets/foundation/docs/pdfs/survey_key_findings.pdf 
Dougy Center, The National Grief Center for Children & Families - Dougy.org 
National Alliance for Children’s Grief (NACG) - childrengrieve.org 
Brighter Days Family Grief Center (Minnesota) - brighterdaysgriefcenter.org 
She Climbs Mountains & Girls Rise Up (Minnesota) - www.sheclimbsmountains.org
Helping Children Deal with Grief - childmind.org/article/helping-children-deal-grief/
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In this episode we discuss many aspects of mothering without a mother. Each of us speak tothis topic while being in different phases of our motherhood journeys. Some topics we coverinclude: Choosing motherhood, mothering skills, having a gender bias due to the trauma oflosing our mothers, putting mothering and motherhood on a pedestal, and more!
Some resources used for this episode are listed below:
Motherless Mothers by Hope EdelmanMothering Without A Map by Kathryn BlackChildren and Grief by J. William Worden
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In Season 2, Episode 9, Guest Nea DallaValle joins us for a conversation about empathy, knowing, intuition, and trusting ourselves. We discuss how the trauma of early mother loss impacts our trust in self. We also explore the idea that the newest generations are in touch with and reliant on their knowing and intuition in new and exceptional ways.
Resources:
Nea DallaValle, Yesologist, Transformational Life Coach, Life Mastery Teacher, Intuitive Guide
Instagram: @neaclarechannelFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachNeaClareWebsite: http://www.neaclare.com/
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In this episode, we discuss mother loss that happens later in life. All four of us hosts have only experienced early mother loss when we were children, and so this perspective is new for us. We explore our guest Karen’s mother loss as an adult. We talk about her dual parent loss, family dynamics, responsibilities of an adult child who has lost a parent, and her relationship with her own daughter throughout these experiences.
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