Ruff Around The Edges Kajsa van Overbeek

[The audio of this episode is a bit wonky, but I hope you'll put up with it because the content is great]

Matilda is a canine coach who creates all the things she wishes she would have had available when working with her dog Nala for her clients.

We talk about how Rafiki, her second dog, helped her grow into the person she is now.
(and what on earth possessed her to get a second dog after having a first dog who was Ruff Around the Edges)

When you listen to the episode you'll be blown away by her transformation and her approach to life.

Imagine being startled by barking... and ending up working with dogs.

We talk about the constant state of dysregulation living in a home with inter-dog aggression brings.
About the toll living with an aggressive dog takes on a relationship.
About what it takes to set boundaries with your loved ones and strangers.
About learning to love life without regrets.
About how freeing it is to have like-minded people by your side.

And so much more.

Find Matilda here:
Her website: https://www.matildathecaninecoach.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matildathecaninecoach/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matildathecaninecoach
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matildathecaninecoach

The episode website is here:
https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/035-matilda-kelsall-amp-nala-and-rafiki-on-dog-sparked-personal-growth-in-leaps-and-bounds/

When you have to train something you don't know how to identify, where do you start?

Can you even start?

I share the experiences a friend of mine and myself have had doing physical therapy, the lessons I learned from it and how they apply to life with our dogs.

How do you find which dials to tweak?

How does a UK national end up a dog (and other animals) trainer in Dubai? Just listening to Aimee's backstory will have you in awe of the way she has stayed true to herself making big life decisions.

We talk about how she tries to make clients feel like they can share everything with her as a trainer so that they don't have to hide their feelings and frustration.

We discuss how breed stereotypes and other assumptions may prevent us from recognizing our dogs are in pain.  Are poodles simply fussy eaters or is there an underlying problem with their teeth causing them pain when they eat?

What about the disappointment we feel when our dog's behavior seems to relapse? What can we do? Should we try something new or go back to basics?

Links:
Aimee's business in Dubai:
https://pawfectgroup.com/
Aimee on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/pawfectbehaviourme/

Episode Website:
https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/034-aimee-of-pawfect-behaviour-on-everything-mindset-and-dogs-and-leaving-the-uk-to-be-a-dubai-dog-trainer/

This episode is for you if you identify as a perfectionist. Simply talking with Aga, the short version for Agnieszka about the concept of errorless learning has given me another way to look at perfectionism and how it can (often but not always) be unhelpful.
Aga talks about training behaviors to fluency which is different from perfection, and about the benefits of playing by someone else's rules now and then, just to get you out of your comfort zone.
She will have you completely rethink the idea of "just one more repetition" and "ending on a win".
Not just that. What about extinction and frustration? Do we need frustration or can we skip it?
Aga also blew my mind by giving me a way of looking at resilience completely differently. What if resilience, the ability to bounce back, isn't an innate trait? What if it simply amounts to having a big enough skillset to be able to handle errors? And since skills can be taught, what if you could teach resilience? Errorlessly? With minimal frustration?
How does this apply to humans?
How does she apply it in her personal life and her business?
And of course, we chat about Agnieszka's new book, the Animal Trainer's Comprehensive Handbook.
Listen to this episode multiple times. It's packed with gems!

Links:
Tromplo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tromplo/
Agnieszka's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/agnieszkajanarektrainer/
The Tromplo website: https://tromplo.com/
The link to the new book, the Animal Trainer's Comprehensive Handbook: https://tromplo.com/product/animal-trainers-comprehensive-handbook-by-agnieszka-janarek/
 
Also mentioned:
Dr. Susan Friedman: https://www.behaviorworks.org/
Ken Ramirez: https://www.kenramireztraining.com/
Kay Laurence: https://www.learningaboutdogs.com/

Episode website:
https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/033-agnieszka-janarek-of-tromplo-on-errorless-learning-lack-of-perfectionism-and-resilience-in-both-humans-and-dogs/

Als Ninke Luka adopteert heeft hij al twee jaar lang in een Russisch asiel gezeten. Eenmaal thuis in Belgisch Limburg durft hij niet eens binnen te komen, zo ontzettend moet hij wennen aan zijn nieuwe leven.

Goedbedoelde adviezen als "da's een een scheper, die moet u wel bezig houden" blijken voor Luka helemaal niet te werken.
Ninke vertelt over de omzwervingen die haar uiteindelijk naar Daniëlla van Paws in Touch leiden en wat haar overtuigde om toch nog weer meer geld in training te steken.

Althans, het belangrijkste voor Luka blijkt om helemaal niet te "trainen", maar om juist in te zetten op rust.
Als later blijkt dat Luka weer achteruit gaat, vertrouwt Ninke het niet. Ze vermoedt dat er pijn in het spel kan zijn. Eerste röntgen foto's laten "slechts" een milde heupdysplasie aan één heup zien.
Gelukkig gaat Ninke af op haar eigen intuïtie en laat ze verder onderzoek doen. Luka blijkt gruwelijk pijn te hebben van een zware hernia.

Ondertussen is ook Ellie bij het gezin gekomen. Wat heeft Ninke anders gedaan bij Ellie? Heeft ze op andere dingen gelet? Wat maakte dat ze het aandurfde er nog een tweede hond bij te nemen?

En last but not least, wat zou ze andere hondenbaasjes als advies mee willen geven?

A spontaneous unscripted ramble about my new Mind's Best Friend group coaching program.

If you like what you hear on the podcast and you have been wanting to dig deeper, now is your chance.

You can find more information here:
https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/november-2023-group-coaching/

Or send me an email, or contact me on social media. I'll be happy to answer any questions.

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