When is it okay to pass gas in front of a new partner? Is it ever okay to snoop in their messages? Should you ask about their past? When should you introduce kids to a new partner? We don't have their answers, but we share our imperfect thoughts on your "when is it okay to...?" questions. Get 15% off with by using the Code DRJESS15 on Lovehoney.com. If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple...

What are swallowing disorders? Who can benefit from the support of a Swallowologist? Can you learn to control your gag reflex? What do therapists need to learn from SLPs? Scientist and professor; Dr. Ianessa Humbert joins Jess and Brandon to address these questions and more. Dr.Humbert has been on faculty at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, the University of Florida, and the University of Iowa. She has also co-founded a range of online learning tools...

Curious about anal pleasure and rimming? Luna Matatas has you covered. She shares tips for oral, seduction, confidence and more. Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches 30+ sexy skills topics - including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate...

Performance pressure can affect pleasure and sexual response from the desire to erections to orgasms and more. In this episode, Jess and Brandon discuss: The most common sources of performance pressure How to talk to a partner about your experience with performance pressure Strategies to reduce pressure and increase pleasure Mindful touch exercises to offset the symptoms of performance pressure Techniques to tune into pleasure Save with code PODCAST on the Mindful Sex...

Curious about how to overcome sexual repression and boost sexual self-esteem? Dr. Tara has you covered. She joins Jess to share her personal story of sexual empowerment -- from shame to She also shares tips to improve sexual communication even if your partner isn't 100% on board. Dr. Tara is a Los Angeles-based sex and relationship expert, a tenured professor of sexual and relational communication (CSUF), and the viral sex ed creator at Luvbites. Stay up to date with Dr. Tara by...

Curious about what other people get up to behind closed doors and online? Carly from AURORE is here to share. She collects confessional sex stories submitted by people from all over the world. Tune in for her story and; a sampling of real-life literary (and audial) erotica. Get 15% off with Code DRJESS15 on Lovehoney.com. If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music...

Are your sleep habits adversely affecting your relationships? Is a lack of sleep affecting your sex life? Do you want to sleep better and wake up rested? Board-certified sleep expert Ellen Wermter joins us to share her top tips for a better night's sleep and why sleep is essential to happy relationships. Ellen Wermter is a Board Certified Family Nurse Practitioner through the American Nurses Credentialing Center and a member of Sigma Theta Tau National Honor Society. She earned...

Family lawyer Justin Lee sees relationships and marriages from both sides: couples come to him before they get married (or move in together) and when the relationship has come to an end. His perspective offers a view of the good, the bad and the ugly. He joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: The benefits of prenups & marital contracts Why marriages fall apart Why all couples should talk to a divorce lawyer before getting married Infidelity clauses Why he still believes in...

In this quickie episode, Jess and Brandon reflect upon a recent argument and share three conversations to address relationship issues. They share their personal perspectives and delve into the importance of addressing three main points when you're struggling:  1. Why you want to work on the relationship  2. How you're feeling vs how you want to feel  3. What you want & what you're willing to compromise  If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to...

            Mike and Denise are one of the happiest couples ever. They've been together since they were teenagers, raised two kids, run a family business, and they're still loving, happy and playful. Have a listen to their story and "secrets" in this casual, candid conversation with Jess and Brandon (Mike is Jess' cousin BTW). There are no magic pills for happy marriages, but every story counts. Warning: gushing contained herein.             Get 15%...

Is scheduling sex a good idea? And how do you deal with a partner - who is struggling with erection issues? Is avoidance of sex but engagement with porn an indication of a Madonna-whore complex? We discuss all this and more with the therapist Kat Kova. Don't forget to check out the Womanizer Starlet, which is on sale this week & you can save an EXTRA 15% with code DRJESS15. Kat Kova is currently; a Ph.D. student in the Social and Personality Psychology Program at York...

Pelvic floor function is essential to sexual health a pleasure, but how much do you know about this key region? Do you know… At what age should you start thinking about the pelvic floor? What daily activities are hard - on the pelvic floor? Which movements can support pelvic floor health? How to care for your pelvic floor during pregnancy? How menopause affects the pelvic floor? We didn’t know the answers, so we asked the fabulous Dr. Kamaria Washington to weigh in on...

What questions should you consider if you’re thinking of opening up your relationship? What issues do couples commonly face when considering polyamory? What is brainspotting? What should solo polyamorous folks consider when dating couples? Which dating sites are best for open relationships? We’re joined by marriage and family therapist Joy Berkheimer who weighs in on these questions and shares her personal experience with swinging and polyamory. Joy is a radical force...

Sex therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo joins us to answer your questions about sex and relationships. How do you manage sexual incompatibility? What do you do when one of you wants sex all the time and the other has trouble getting in the mood? And how do you get yourself in the mood to be a "giver" when it doesn't come naturally? Dr. Donna Oriowo (oreo-whoa!) LICSW, CST, is an award-winning DEI advocate, international speaker and certified sex and relationship therapist in the...

Do you have trouble expressing your desires in bed? Are you nervous - to open up about your fantasies? Do you have difficulty tapping into sexual turn-ons? Perhaps the constraints of gender (and the associated shame) are holding you back from experiencing deeper pleasure. Fret not. Dr. Candice Nicole joins Jess & Brandon to help you shed gender shame and bend gender all in the name of hotter sex. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor of counselling...

How much can you ask a partner to change? And how do you know if non-monogamy is the right choice for you? Jess and Brandon discuss these listener questions and share their (imperfect) perspectives in this quickie episode. Save 25% with code PODCAST for the Mind Blowing Oral: C**t and the Mind Blowing Oral: Penis course on the Happier Couples website. . If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple...

We are riding a high after appearing on The TODAY Show this morning! Hoda and Jenna were the warmest hosts and in this week's episode we dig a little deeper into one of their viewer questions about housework and how to stop keeping score. Tune in for 6 specific strategies you can use to reduce tension, conflict and stave off resentment in the long-run. Don't forget you can save 25% off all of our video courses at HappierCouples.com with code PODCAST. And be sure to subscribe...

Jess & Brandon weigh in on why they don't love V-Day and answer questions from listeners; who wants to have a happier Valentine's -- free from pressure. They weigh in on what to do if your partner refuses to celebrate and offer; some alternative ways to celebrate beyond chocolates and roses. We hope you don't use this as an excuse to avoid celebrating. Instead, we hope it inspires deeper conversations about the meaning we attach to holidays, celebrations and expressions of...

Intimacy is about so much more than sex. It can be emotional, relational, practical, physical, spiritual and so much more. This week, Jess and Brandon share prompts to help cultivate emotional connection as they work their way through the Intimacy Interview. And just in time for V-Day, we have a luxurious giveaway from Lunatic Femme, a luxurious lingerie brand that uses the finest materials for their small-batch collection. They're offering up a gorgeous eco-silk kimono with removable...

Take a few minutes to slow down and reconnect with this simple exercise designed for emotional connection, physical intimacy and mindfulness. It's not a magic pill, but just two minutes may be worth a shot. Jess & Brandon give it a whirl and share their honest reactions. If you're looking for the Lovehoney sale products (use code DRJESS15 to save an extra 15%), here they are: Hitachi Magic Wand  - 'Most amazing orgasm I’ve seen her have in 10 years!' 'Be free from cords, without...

It's time to debunk the myth of the "dead vagina syndrome" and overcome hangups about vibrators - so that; we can all enjoy more pleasure! If you're looking for Jess' product picks from the Lovehoney sale, check out: Womanizer Starlet 2 Lovehoney Rose WeVibe X Lovehoney Nova 2 Lovehoney’s wide selection of kink & fetish gear. Use code DRJESS15 to save at checkout. And if you're interested in the Oasis Aqualounge event in Toronto, you can learn more here. If you...

What’s the difference between a fetish and a kink? How common are kinks and fetishes? What are the most common fetishes? How do I move when thrusting during sex? What are some household objects that I can use as kinky pervertibles? Jess and Brandon weigh in on your kinky questions in this quickie episode. And check out Lovehoney’s wide selection of kink & fetish gear. Use code DRJESS10 to save at checkout. Save 25% with code PODCAST for the Mind Blowing Oral...

Why am I only attracted to "toxic" partners? How can I heal & move on from old wounds? What do I do when I love my partner, but I'm no longer "in love"? How do you define love? How do I deal with a partner who blames everyone else for their problems? Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins Jess & Brandon to answer your relationship questions. She explains why we sometimes avoid healthy relationships and; why we might; be drawn to harmful ones. And she also provides a...

Let's start 2023 on the right foot with some easy strategies for happier, more fulfilling relationships of - all kinds. Jess and Brandon share; 7 simple resolutions ranging from the sexual to the practical. Thank you to Lovehoney for their support of this podcast! Save on toys, lingerie, and much more at Lovehoney.com with code DRJESS10 And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music...

Naked News host & producer Laura Desiree joins us to talk about her career in journalism and her journey to living a life free of shame and full of pleasure. She discusses the stigma associated with nudity and the erotic and shares strategies for letting go of the self-judgment that holds us back from living our best lives. Follow Laura Desiree's work: Instagram and you can find the Licked and Loaded Podcast here. And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You...