How many of us spend all our time and energy looking for the one answer to fix it all?  I know I get caught up in that so much.  I had this realization after reading Matthew 7:7-8 HCSB that its not about the answer but the search for the answer that changes us, impacts us, where we learn the most.  Its not the answer in the parenting book that makes us a better parent but the caring enough to be the better parent and that quest to implement new ideas that does the most change in our lives.   There is no one answer to life.   If we stay focus more on the search for growth and be more present to our lives instead of focusing so much on whatever this "ideal" we have made up for ourselves, I believe we will find we are already there.