The Better You with Kacie Main Kacie Main

quick update on the podcast and potential plans for the future

After a lot of back-and-forth, I've decided to step away from the podcast for a bit. I feel a strong pull to simplify my life and get quieter, so I'm going to practice what I preach and listen to myself.


Thank you all for your support! I hope to be back with a more intentional show. In the meantime, please take the time you would normally listen to this show and use it as quality, quiet, alone time with yourself!

In this end-of-the-year solo episode, I share 21 life lessons for the New Year.






Below are the lessons I share and discuss, and (as promised) links to all the blogs/articles referenced throughout.






1.      It’s okay to be a thinker.


Thought Catalog - 5 Little Reasons Why It’s Actually Good To Be An ‘Overthinker’


 


2.      Everything matters.


 


3.      There is insight in every emotion – good and bad.


Blog – All the Feels


 


4.      We can only ever love to the extent that we understand love.


 


5.      Our relationship with our self takes time.


 


6.      Life has different seasons.


Check out Ep. 9: How to East the Stress of Self-Care with Megan Weigel, DNP


Blog – The Gift


 


7.      Nothing ever goes away, until it has taught us what we need to know.


Quote by Pema Chodron


 


8.      The point of relationships are to trigger our shit.


 


9.      Our brain can’t always be trusted.


 


10.  Set boundaries.


Check out Ep. 15: Meeting Needs in Relationships with Dr. Kirstie Overstreet


 


11.  It’s not easy to listen to your gut.


Thought Catalog - These 3 Important Tells Mean Your Gut Is Speaking Up And You Need To Listen


 


12.  Maybe there is no right and wrong.


 


13.  Life knows better.


Blog - Maybe Life Knows Better


 


14.  Everything that matters is happening inside us.


Blog – The Ruse


 


15.  It is what it is.


 


16.  We actually can change others… but only by changing ourselves.


Check out Ep. 18: Using Awareness & Perspective to Move Forward with Bryan Falchuk


Thought Catalog - When We Give Up On Others, We Give Up On Ourselves


 


17.  All change starts with awareness.


 


18.  Life is only lived one step at a time.


Blog – The Moment


 


19.  Trust the process.


Thought Catalog - Oops, I Bought 3,000 Instagram Followers


 


20.  The reaction doesn’t belong to you.


From Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic


 


21.  Agree to disagree.


Check out Ep. 73: just me: on empathy amid controversy






 


Follow me on all the socials: Instagram @kaciemain_writes, Facebook @kaciemain.write, or Twitter @kaciemain_write.






Find my book – I Gave Up Men for Lent, the story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning – on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible.






And for everything else you want to know about me, visit my website at www.kaciemain.com






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In the first-ever episode of the podcast, we talk with my high school friend Graham and hear his story of struggling to come to grips with the death of his mother at a young age, all while realizing he was gay in a time and environment that wasn’t supportive of that.


 


In this episode, we discuss:






·      How our selflessness can be such a noble thing, yet it can have some serious consequences for our relationship with ourselves and others.


·      How oftentimes we must process and accept things internally before we are ready to share them with the people in our lives.


·      How you truly never know what someone else is going through.


·      The awareness in relationships to stop and consider if you want to be in those relationships vs. focusing on the other person and what they want or how they’re feeling.


·      How everything we go through in life serves a purpose.






You can find and follow Graham here:


Instagram: @instagrahamfrancisco


Let Me Introduce You Podcast


Instagram: @letmeintroyoupod


Twitter: @letmeintroyou






PREVIOUS EPISODE RECOMMENDATIONS:


Ep. 70: Balancing Taking Care of Yourself & Being There for Others with Asha Tarry


Ep. 48: Embracing the Real Rebel Within You with Katie Buemann


Ep. 44: Death, God, Religion, & Mysticism with Rev. Peter Panagore










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Please SUBSCRIBE, SHARE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast!


Follow the podcast on Instagram @TheBetterYouPodcast or Facebook @TheBetterYouPodcast. And you can email the podcast at TheBetterYouPodcast@gmail.com


Follow me on all the socials: Instagram @kaciemain_writes, Facebook @kaciemain.write, or Twitter @kaciemain_write.


Find my book – I Gave Up Men for Lent, the story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning – on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible.


And for everything else you want to know about me, visit my website at www.kaciemain.com


 

In this episode, we talk about the various forms of trauma, how it affects us and our brains, and look at a powerful treatment therapy to heal the negative impacts of trauma.


 


Amy Pope-Latham is a licensed clinical social worker with extensive experience in treating children, adolescents, adults, and families. She received an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Stony Brook University and a Master's degree in Social Work from Stony Brook University's School of Medicine and Social Welfare. She offers EMDR, as well as Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and largely incorporates Evidence-Based Practices and Somatic and Mindfulness-based Therapy for a variety of presenting symptoms such as grief, anxiety, complex trauma, obsessive and compulsive thinking patterns, and substance use.






In this episode, we discuss:






·      How our minds – like our bodies – are actually set up to heal themselves.


·      The different approaches to help reconnect our mind and our body and remove the continuous pain from trauma.


·      How EMDR is a tool to access our limbic system, where we store - and essentially hide – our physical feelings, and revisit and process traumatic experiences in a safe space.


·      Our drive for connection and how that impacts how we react to trauma.


·      How important it is to recognize that we are all in process and wherever you are in that process is exactly where you need to be.






You can find and follow Amy here:


CoastalBeachesTherapy.com


Instagram: @coastalbeachestherapy


Facebook: @coastalbeachestherapy






PREVIOUS EPISODE RECOMMENDATIONS:


Ep. 81: Equine Therapy to Bring You Back to Self with Dr. Ashley Dial


Ep. 79: Finding Forgiveness & Healing with Sara Schulting Kranz


Ep. 69: Breathing Through Stress & Anxiety with Dr. Emma Seppala










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Please SUBSCRIBE, SHARE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast!


Follow the podcast on Instagram @TheBetterYouPodcast or Facebook @TheBetterYouPodcast. And you can email the podcast at TheBetterYouPodcast@gmail.com


Follow me on all the socials: Instagram @kaciemain_writes, Facebook @kaciemain.write, or Twitter @kaciemain_write.


Find my book – I Gave Up Men for Lent, the story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning – on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible.


And for everything else you want to know about me, visit my website at www.kaciemain.com

In this episode, Krista (founder of A Life in Progress) and I discuss the messiness of life and how to use self-compassion to get through it.






Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui works as a writer & Joyful Living Educator. Her mission is to help messy humans like herself quiet the noise of perfectionism, comparison and fear and show up fully - with joy and on purpose - to their imperfect and beautiful lives, in every season.






In this episode, we discuss:






·      How to better understand your sensitivity and see that there is beauty in it.


·      The importance of fully accepting ourselves, including the mess, pain, and discomfort that comes with growth.


·      Perfectionism and the different ways it can show up.


·      How our struggles are actually tied in with our strengths.


·      Using curiosity vs. judgment to see how nothing is inherently “bad.”


·      How our different traits live on a spectrum of healthy vs. unhealthy and the importance of being aware of that.


·      How being deeply rooted in self-awareness and self-compassion can help us stay grounded when we move along those spectrums.


·      The difference and relationship between self-compassion, self-esteem, and self-worth.


·      How self-compassion involves allowing all the emotions and all the messy parts of life.


·      And the power of both/and instead of either/or.






You can find and follow Krista here:


www.alifeinprogress.ca


Facebook: @alifeinprogressca


Instagram: @a_life_in_progress






RESOURCES:


Kristin Neff


Brene Brown


Byron Katie


Parker Palmer – Let Your Life Speak






PREVIOUS EPISODE RECOMMENDATIONS:


Ep. 80: Balancing It All is B******t with Casey Castro


Ep. 79: Finding Forgiveness & Healing with Sara Schulting Kranz


Ep. 75: Finding the Positive & Going After Big Goals with Paralympic Athlete Sydney Collier


Ep. 71: Transforming Your Mindset to Believe You’re Enough with Leisse Wilcox






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Please SUBSCRIBE, SHARE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast!


Follow the podcast on Instagram @TheBetterYouPodcast or Facebook @TheBetterYouPodcast. And you can email the podcast at TheBetterYouPodcast@gmail.com


Follow me on all the socials: Instagram @kaciemain_writes, Facebook @kaciemain.write, or Twitter @kaciemain_write.


Find my book – I Gave Up Men for Lent, the story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning – on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible.


And for everything else you want to know about me, visit my website at www.kaciemain.com


 


 


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