Lot of cross-contamination between this & ep #15: Through Different Lenses. For the most part, people aren't going to be IRL exactly what you think they will (whether you know them online, at work, via text, from your past. When you ACCEPT that things are the way they are, and they aren’t the way they aren’t, it becomes easier to see them as not good, not bad, just reality, and then you can deal with, and maybe grow to LOVE and appreciate that reality - because you weren’t expecting anyone or anything