Have you ever had one of those arguments — whether with a friend or a colleague, a loved one or a perfect stranger — that is totally pointless yet still boils your blood? All too often, life feels like a series of acrid encounters that never solve anything but always succeed in hurting someone’s feelings. But what if it didn’t have to be that way? In his forthcoming book, “Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement” (Nov. 19), Buster Benson hands you the tools you need to overcome strife within your relationships, engage with divisive political views, and disagree with dignity. Support us by supporting our sponsors! Away — Visit awaytravel.com/bigidea and use the promo code BIGIDEA for $20 off Zip Recruiter — Try it for free at ziprecruiter.com/bigidea Skillshare — Get two months for free by going to skillshare.com/bigidea