Paints with a broad brush. No grace. No discretion.
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“I’ve listened to dozens of episodes now after being encouraged to do so by my young adult child who has recently adopted a very angry and accusational attitude toward me and my spouse. No wonder. Mr. Young treats all “hurts” as serious wrongs. I’ve been stunned by how tiny my child’s complaints have been. They are so minute and petty, especially in light of the goodness we showered on him. These things that we did were at most disappointing and parental discretion situations where they just did not get their way, not harming or hurtful. Wasn’t allowed to watch R-rated movies as a 12 year old? Apparently that’s trauma! Occasionally not allowed to go out late with friends when you are in the midst of school and sports and applying for college? Abuse!
Mr. Young treats all complaints and complainers as valid. They simply are not all valid, defined as having a sound basis in fact and reason. That’s not to say that the feelings aren’t real - just that they aren’t reasonable, and should be adjusted in light of the facts and reason. To say all feelings and complaints are valid is simply nonsense, yet his stance encourages and celebrates this. The parent who objects or defends themselves is a “narcissist” or a “wicked person”. You’ll hear him say that not all hurts are intentional, and that most parents are so-called ordinary garden variety sinners, but he has never once in an episode I’ve heard had any example of this or expanded on the topic. Then many (though not all) of the examples he gives of hurtfulness and trauma and wicked behavior by parents is absurd.
His overall message and teaching 100% has led my child astray, turned them against us, and deceived them. There is no question real hurt and trauma is caused by some parents, and there are certainly wicked parents. Healing and therapy are needed in those cases. But to listen to this podcast, you come away having been told that essentially all parents are wicked people, and all complaining children should be believed and their complaints never questioned. Oh, and don’t ever question whether your parents hurt you on purpose, or whether your story is really that bad. He assures you that your parents did mean to hurt you, and your story is terrible, whether you think so or not. How ridiculous.”
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