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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

U Up‪?‬ U Up?

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 14K Ratings

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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    Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?

    Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?

    J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen. Then, Jordana dishes on decision-making with her husband and the tactics that they’re using to get through their home renovations. Next, we receive an email from a male listener who isn’t having much luck making it to date #2. Is there a right way to ask what went wrong? The next email is a listener mid-spiral after her fiancé confessed to a digital affair. Then, the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a weird house quality, downgraded dinner plans, and lying about age on the apps.
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    • 1 hr 39 min
    Can I Force A Closure Conversation After A Breakup?

    Can I Force A Closure Conversation After A Breakup?

    Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthquake and solar eclipse, Jared and Jordana are getting deep into fears, oblivion, and mental health. Then, they dive into an email that doubles as a "Petty or Prudent?" submission. Our listener was dumped by her fiancé after footing most of the bills in preparation of their wedding, but she still has his grandmother's engagement ring. Should she give it back, or is it only fair that she sells it to pay off the debt incurred? She gets into the details of what's transpired since he called the wedding off to let J&J decide where to go from here.
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    • 41 min
    I Took My Ex Back and He Dumped Me—Again!

    I Took My Ex Back and He Dumped Me—Again!

    Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the episode. Then, our first email is questioning a man's alleged heartbreak. Our listener's friend broke up with a guy, but she's not sure how to take his reaction. Was he really just romantic, or was his reaction the subtle sign of a player? The Awkward Encounter is the accidental sext situation without the ick. The next email comes from a confused listener after her ex reached out wanting to be "all in" only to change his mind 3 days later. J&J discuss WTF happened and how you can avoid situations like this, then they end the episode with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about an odd joke, a last-minute change of plans, and privacy screens. 
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    • 1 hr 38 min
    Jordana's Post-Existential Excitement

    Jordana's Post-Existential Excitement

    Benefits listeners are catching J&J a few days after an earthquake and a solar eclipse, making all the more sense for an existential conversation. It's Jordana's turn to share, and she's switching up the next steps in her fertility journey. She and Jared talk a bit about the reality checks that come with life, reminders to enjoy the lives they're living, and exciting plans to come. Plus, Jordana explains how last week's doom email came to mind and has a message for listeners going through it.

    Should It Matter That My BF’s Mom Dislikes Me?

    Should It Matter That My BF’s Mom Dislikes Me?

    Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experience if they could attend one. Then, Jordana needs context on “the chair” text exchange from Jared’s Instagram Story coverage of his brother’s wedding. The “Icky or Picky?” is about having sex with someone who shares the same name as a family member. Then, we hear from a listener whose boyfriend’s mom disapproves so much that she emailed a list of her deal breakers. Should his mom’s behavior be a reason to see herself out of this relationship, or can they work through it? J&J discuss the balancing act between a parent and a partner when everyone isn’t aligned.
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    • 35 min
    Are Some Women Doomed To Be Alone Forever?

    Are Some Women Doomed To Be Alone Forever?

    Before we dive into another peak dating season, it’s time to ask yourself what you want and why you need it. In today’s episode, we hear from a few listeners going through frustration and anxiety, but first, you’ll never guess what Jordana has to do. Then, J&J hear from a 32-year-old listener who is convinced that at this point, she and other women are doomed in today’s dating society. Jared levels with her, but before we let her take everyone down too, our hosts discuss the importance of what you want your story to be. The Awkward Encounter is a confusing situation phoned into our hotline. Aligned with second-guessing from the previous two, our next emailer is dating someone, but she’s not sure she made the right call backing out of a date if it would mean meeting some of his family members. Does that mean they were taking the next step, or is she making a movie night more than he meant it to be? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a third-wheeling puppy, revealing a potential deal breaker before the date, and lifestyle changes.
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    • 1 hr 28 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
14K Ratings

14K Ratings

Em121076 ,

Jay shetty must not be shared

Love the pod. Happy subscriber. However, I would be remiss not to implore you both never to have that emotional snake oil salesman on the pod again. I was going to keep this inside, but then I heard it’s your most shared pod. That is wrong. That man is not married. That man is in a cross-continental legal situationship. Jared didn’t need to ask if they have children. Red flag that becomes a deal breaker? not watching tv (or wanting to) with your spouse. That’s all you do. Five stars for you both!

Nicwas25 ,

Love the giggles

Really enjoy the show!

emily bagel ,

Love a Long Intro

Writing to say I’m never mad at a long intro. The longer the better, always need more J&J and I’m a subscriber!

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