Really emotionally secure people don't assume things have to go well. Neither do they assume that something is bound to be 'a disaster' So what's their secret? Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email. 

Here's a thought I think you'll find helpful. You don't have to think about believing in yourself when you do believe in yourself and you don't have to try to be positive when you are positive. Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.  

Ever heard of the 'Bannister Effect'? Before 6 May 1954, it was thought 'impossible' to run a mile under four minutes... Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.  

Does someone keep criticising you? Relentless criticism wears you down and if you've been prone to low self esteem then you may have found yourself internally agreeing with the critic. Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.    

Never give up! Determination and perseverance make for more successful and ultimately happier lives. Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.

Have you ever felt you didn't 'deserve' success? You didn't feel able to 'push yourself forward' in life?  Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to sign up for free Self Esteem tips by email. 

"If you don't make mistakes you don't make anything" Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RqAF9M Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free Self Esteem tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Here's a question: What does 'success' mean to you? If it fits with what other people assume is 'successful' then that's fine..but maybe it doesn't and that needs to be fine too... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RkDBuK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips        

Low self esteem cons you into feeling like you are 'a failure'. But to be 'a success' we need to get beyond simplistic notions of 'success' or 'failure'. Why? Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1U1BUlX Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Do you sometimes fear failure too much to even try things? Fear of failure is closely linked to fear of rejection and the dread of being thought poorly of. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1QtRKmY Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

So we've talked quite a bit about the risks of being too nice. So what are we to make of it all? Well, if we are not to be taken advantage of at work or in relationships, becoming more assertive will help. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1PEJRaw Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Last time we saw how the snake had made life difficult for itself by becoming too nice. This time I want to look at how people respond to too much niceness. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RuB0Me Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

The snake was vicious, snarling, and dangerous. He terrified the villagers, biting the children and scaring all the adults. But sometimes he felt lonely and craved companionship. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RDphwm Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Consider this... If you were delivering life-saving mouth-to-mouth on someone in public, you'd be totally focussed. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1keKIFx Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Do you remember my client John from a few podcasts back? Who couldn't bring himself to pursue his dream of opening a small hotel in Spain because of what people might think? Listen on to find out what happened. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1mnmqe4 Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

People say "be yourself" don't they? But they never say how. Firstly, remember it's human to mimic other humans... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/21U7V1V Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

'We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.' - Ethel Barrett Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1N0yw5E Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

The imagination is a wonderful thing. Except when it's not. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1XisuVK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Have you noticed that some people use disapproval as a weapon?  Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1XisuVK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

I've noticed that people who are overly concerned with approval assume that other people will think them 'a terrible person' or 'a loser' if they say or do something that isn't somehow right... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1LyWq3X Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Peer pressure can make us go against what we truly know to be decent and civilized behaviour. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1HaT8sy Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

You may have spotted this, but anxiously seeking approval is often an attempt at trying to gain and keep a sense of control. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1WXfEMH Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Constantly seeking approval means we're perpetually worried that others are forming a bad opinion of us. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1NsTU0w Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Some approval seeking is inevitable of course - after all, we all need friends. But if we are led through life doing what we've come to believe is 'expected of us', then, in a way, we cease to exist, to live, and be real. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1liS0t0 Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel b