“As a mother with two children, one of which is special needs, the other of which is not. Both boys, I was interested in that episode. I think the therapist did a good job, but a few things bothered me. Ok I understand why the child wasn’t named, I suppose. The focus is the “other” child.
First thing that bothered me was the mother saying that she was told her child would never talk and should be institutionalized. I don’t believe that was ever told to her. It’s a developmental delay and it’s always we don’t know. We have to see how they develop. They would never make a statement of such finality. I find parents say that as a way to elevate their own selves. I defied the medical professionals. I never gave up. It irritates me, a lot.
I have a nonverbal adult son. It just isn’t true, so I always feel disappointed when parents do that.
Secondly the pronoun issue. That is a common problem with those who have Autistic Disorder aka as Classic Autism. I refrain from using pronouns at all, because my son doesn’t connect them with the person. Basically they don’t understand them. So if he says he or she? He does so without understanding why she (for 20+ years) was now a he? Or when is it she or when is it he. Of course he looks for a reaction. Because that is how he chooses the pronoun. He doesn’t choose one or the other because he sees you as one or the other. They are meaningless to him. So that expectation is also selfish.”
the modern medusa via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/25/20