189 episodes

Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on our taken-for-granted assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. To learn more, visit mariemurphyphd.com.

Your Secret Is Safe With Me Dr. Marie Murphy

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.7 • 65 Ratings

Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on our taken-for-granted assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. To learn more, visit mariemurphyphd.com.

    189. Scandal, Disgrace, and Redemption

    189. Scandal, Disgrace, and Redemption

    People often freak out when infidelity occurs, even if it has pretty much zero impact on their lives. It gets treated as a big scandal that the "perpetrator" needs to redeem themselves from. Whether or not you buy into the idea that scandal, disgrace, and redemption are real things, other people turning your experiences into a public spectacle is a very real thing, and it's a pretty big deal.
     
    Tune in this week to discover what you need to consider if you find yourself the object of a scandalous spectacle following an affair. I share two parallel practices for dealing with being the object of a scandal, and you'll learn how to take responsibility and begin the work of redeeming yourself in your own eyes, if that's what you choose to do in this situation.
     
    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/189

    • 56 min
    188. When Your Affair Partner Leaves You for the Wrong Reasons

    188. When Your Affair Partner Leaves You for the Wrong Reasons

    Have you ever found yourself in an affair situation with someone who is monogamously committed to someone else? For a while, your partner is pretty sure they want to leave that relationship and pursue a non-affair relationship with you. They share their intentions to leave their partner for weeks, months, or even years, and they may even take action to prove these intentions. 
     
    Then, one day, your affair partner reaches the point where they decide that they can’t leave their committed relationship after all. They decide to stay in that relationship, despite everything they have said and done in their affair relationship with you. So what happened? And what the hell do you do now?! Tune in this week to find out.
     
    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/188

    • 41 min
    187. It's Okay to Change Your Mind

    187. It's Okay to Change Your Mind

    How often do you make a decision that you think you’re happy with, then doubt yourself and fear it was the wrong one because you feel so many mixed emotions about it? When you make a major decision in your life, about your infidelity situation or otherwise, you are most likely going to have mixed thoughts and feelings about it, but that DOESN’T mean it’s a problem or a sign you should choose differently. 
     
    In this week’s episode of Your Secret Is Safe With Me, learn why it is completely okay to change your mind on any decision you make and the importance of making decisions with a managed mind. Find out why making a decision with a managed mind doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind further down the line and how I used exactly what I’m teaching you this week in my own life to put an end to a program I was offering so soon after putting it out into the world.
     
    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/187

    • 45 min
    186. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 2)

    186. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 2)

    Join me for part two of "Why I Do the Work I Do" as I share the turning point that led me to become a relationship coach specializing in non-judgmental assistance to people engaging in infidelity, and exactly what it took for me to get here. I’m picking up where I left off last week and sharing the power of taking small steps forward, even when your confidence is wavering, and how I created this unique role for myself despite believing for a while that I didn’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur.
     
    You CAN create a version of yourself and your life that doesn’t exist yet, and I’m showing you how in this episode.
     
    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/186

    • 52 min
    185. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 1)

    185. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 1)

    As you may be aware, “non-judgmental infidelity coach” is not a common job description that exists out there in the world, at least not to my knowledge. This thing I do and the angle I take is pretty unique, and I am dedicated to offering non-judgmental guidance to people actively engaging in any form of infidelity. But how did I get here? What exactly led me to do the work I do?
     
    In this week’s episode, I share where my interest in all things sexuality and the stigma surrounding it came from, and how exactly I came to do the work I do today. I dive into what enables me to conceptualize infidelity and help people in the ways that I do, and how my background and interests from a very young age inform my capacity to help people deal with their infidelity situations in a non-judgmental way.
     
    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/185

    • 1 hr 2 min
    184. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation (Part 2)

    184. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation (Part 2)

    At some point, the drawbacks of your infidelity situation can start to outweigh the benefits, and if this happens for you, you may want to start thinking about taking a conscious, deliberate approach to resolving your infidelity situation in a way you feel good about. Yes it might feel hard at first – so hard that you may decide that you’d rather stay put and continue to accept the status quo – but here’s the thing: staying stuck and stressed is NOT your only option. It is NOT as hard to resolve your infidelity situation as you may currently believe; you just need to change the way you approach it. And I’m here to help.
     
    This week, I show you why resolving your infidelity situation doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think it will be and how to resolve it in a way you feel great about.
     
    Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/184
     
     

    • 25 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
65 Ratings

65 Ratings

Matt98368 ,

Helped me help myself.

Hard work is all that she asks. She presents material that makes you think and make decisions that best serve your primary relationship, which is yourself. Not just about infidelity!

P. Bjerketvedt ,

No valuable content

Too much “word jumbo jumbo”
No valuable information, assuming it because she’s looking for paying clients.
Lots of obvious information.

Kais3r Soz3 ,

Love the podcast

Great discussions about all kinds of relationship stuff, in addition to infidelity. I like the polyamory and tarot episodes the best.

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