“Admittedly, I haven’t listened to all of the podcasts, but I know this is a topic most of us experience in out life. Grief. They loss of a loved one. And how to charter the waves and waters of our emotions pre and post loss. I’m not a writer, but I spend my days as a clinical social worker listening to others’ life challenges and struggles, documenting those experiences. My experience is not much different than most. I have experienced loss. But how does a professional experience and process their own grief and loss. It’s a much different experience in my personal feeing. I work day to day providing others with the affirmations that their feelings are valid. That they should allow themselves to be open to the grief journey. Yet I myself, have not let myself do the exact same thing I encourage others to do.
I lost my father 3 years ago in June of 2021.
He was a decorated Vietnam veteran. He had health conditions related to agent orange exposure. But nothing life threatening. At first. In May of 2021, he was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It explained his many physical and cognitive issues he was experiencing.
He underwent a craniotomy, removing the tumor. Unfortunately, the cancer had already spread. 6 weeks after his initial diagnosis, he was gone. Poof! Just like that. Taken from us so soon and unexpectedly.
I have not allowed myself to grieve much. I have become numb to the loss. Going day to day just knowing he is not here any longer.
I am a clinical social worker who works with veterans and their families, effective in my treatment and care I provide them. Yet, somehow, I am at a loss of how to process my own grief. I had sought out therapy myself, but became “uninterested” in the process and did not feel any better. I have thought to myself. “Do my patients feel the same about my care?” I often wonder where I go from here with my grief. For now, I only carry it in a distant area of my mind, hoping it will with time, get more distant. Thanks for reading this and for sharing your stories with others. SM”
mobretz via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
10/09/24