“Anderson, thank you so much for discussing a difficult topic. As you have touched on, our culture wants to quickly button things up and move on. I’m lucky to have had my parents as long as I did, but my mom passed when I was 35 and just beginning a great adult relationship with her, and my dad died a slow, agonizing death from early onset dementia and ultimately Covid by the time I was 40. While my friends and colleagues were seemingly in the prime of their lives having babies and achieving career goals, I felt so alone in the process of grieving, caregiving for my father with dementia (and all of those really HEAVY decisions regarding his care— deciding whether to quit my job and move-in with him, deciding whether to bring in-home care to him, or whether to place him in a facility, and if so, which one… and making medical decisions for him when he couldn’t make them for himself, including whether to intubate or place him in hospice), and dealing with all that comes with death… the taxes, the paperwork, the house clean outs, etc. I kept trying to express to friends how lonely I felt, and while I have a wonderful group of friends, I don’t think they could comprehend what I was going through and one friend seemingly distanced herself from me likely because I was in the deep trenches of this grief. Your podcasts helped me to normalize my grief, and they filled the void on my drive to and from work, which was a time I would have called my mom, my dad, or one of the friends who became more distant. My heart breaks hearing the stories of the people you interview and the listeners who have called in and left messages describing their losses. As much as my heart breaks for them, I feel a sense of community knowing I’m not alone in this grief journey. My mom has been gone almost 8 years and my dad for almost 3 years, but in some ways, the grief grows larger knowing all they have missed out on as they should have been enjoying their golden years. I am trying to find purpose in life by being a good mom to my son, and by volunteering in my community, but some days just feel bleak, and I think after listening to your podcast, that is ok to sometimes feel the grief and just be. I will be forever grateful for this podcast. Thank you!”
Hot Ms Express via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
10/11/24