Our country's experiencing one of the most dangerous periods in history. Political dissension, racial profiling, random massacres, gender prejudice, a reckless and deceitful media, etc have caused a massive division in American. Some feel terrorism is our greatest threat; others say it's our economy, healthcare or the political venom in our nation's capital. Yet in truth America's greatest threat is the hatred among our own people. Here are 10 things everyone must do to save our...

People don't want to interact with bullies. Yet bullies aren't bad people -it's their behaviors that are appalling. They act out their pain, loneliness, & insecurities in very offensive ways. People are hesitant to interact with them, uncertain of the bully's reactions, if they'll be safe in doing so or because they are not worth their time and effort. With the exception of any imminent danger, there are steps you can take to reach out and intervene. Consider the HA-HA SORB Method: This...

No matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Let's take a moment and examine the differences between anger, boundaries, compassion, and enabling and which are productive choices and why: This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part...

In last week's show, we spoke about why some people choose not to forgive and why it's essential to do so. Assuming you have made the decision to let go of the incident, how do you proceed? Here are 11 steps to guide you through the process to a place of complete forgiveness. This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (http://www.talk4media.com/).

Is there someone in your life that you refuse to forgive or are having a hard time with? People often say, "I'll never forgive them for what they did!" Or, "Some offenses should never be forgiven." Others feel that some do not deserve exoneration. Why are some reluctant to do so and why is forgiveness necessary? This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network...

Today my husband and I had our fifth fight. Not bad for a twenty year marriage but regardless, for an anger management professional such as myself, I didn't handle it very well. Anger is the outward expression of either hurt, fear, or frustration (the three root causes). For certain, I was feeling frustrated. I had an attitude and behaved in a way unfair to my husband and needed to do some quick damage control. So how did I get over my anger? By considering the following 10 questions: This...

We live in a volatile and dangerous age, seeing a rise of violence in our communities. Gangs and individual assaults give way to protests by militant groups claiming to seek justice but instead promote and engage in acts of violence. What could be a peaceful gathering escalates to brutality and bloodshed. But is it possible for large masses of angry individuals to successfully , reasonable, and peacefully find solutions to issues of extreme injustice? Yes, if both sides follow these 10...

I'm not much of a fighter. With the exception of protecting myself in a domestic violence relationship, I have never engaged in physical conflict in my life. And while my typical style of confrontation was one of silence, I have since become more comfortable with engaging in disputes of a verbal nature. People are often quick and eager to fight. There is a time and place for everything and one needs to know when it is best to simply walk away and when one needs to stand up for justice. This...

At some time in life, most people feel as though they've been treated unfairly and would consider themselves a victim. Those who have been the target of a violent crime fall into that category according to society's standards. Even those of lesser offenses can view themselves as the target of injustice. By definition, a victim is one who is acted on and adversely affected by a force or agent. Is there a way to move beyond the victim mentality to a place of empowerment? Absolutely! This show...

Relationships on every level are critically important in our lives. For the most part people put forth a sincere effort in trying to get along with others. After all, it's just common sense that the more gratifying our interactions are with others the less stress between us. When they don't work out, oftentimes we are clueless as to our role. However, this one question will provide vital insight into the nature of our relationships to ensure their success. This show is broadcast live on...

Trauma is the emotional response to an extremely negative event and can manifest physically as well as emotionally. It is absolutely vital that one acknowledges their feelings rather than deny them. Every feeling has purpose and value and denial of such in no way dissipates them. Let's examine 10 common emotions and the process to heal each. This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4...

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It is even necessary for justice to preside as well as for our very survival. However, it is not ok to express it whenever and however we want. When I express or use my anger in a destructive manner it becomes problematic and sinful. How can one be certain that anger is appropriate and righteous as opposed to corrupt or immoral? This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio...

Although we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is simply an outward expression of an internal issue. In prior shows, I've discussed the 3 root causes of anger: hurt, fear or frustration. Identifying the emotion behind anger invites a deeper insight into TIBBs: The Issues Behind the Behaviors. People can deny their anger, suppress or control it. However, none of these allows for a healing to occur. This show is...

People take life far too seriously. There are important issues in our world such as child abuse, war, poverty, etc. that must be addressed and resolved quickly in order to protect mankind and eliminate unnecessary suffering. But we give too much credence to incidences of little value and in turn cause ourselves grief and heartache. Add to that the unnecessary anger we experience and it's no wonder we're all so miserable. Learn the secrets to laughter and how it dissolves anger. This show is...

It's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Anger is neither good nor bad: it's a messenger that alerts us to the fact that what is occurring is wrong. However, there are bad (destructive) ways of using anger and good (beneficial) ways. Discover the difference. This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on...

I've been teaching people about anger for 25 years. This is referred to as anger management and implies that people first become irate, then seek methods of how to manage and express it appropriately and ultimately put it to rest so it does not cause further distress. This makes as much sense as allowing a house to catch fire, then trying to extinguish the flames. Fire/Anger prevention makes much more sense. Discover 3 lifestyle changes that prevent anger from manifesting. This show is...

In relationships, disagreement are normal and healthy. They allow us to open our minds to new ways of thinking. While most escalate into fights, there is a very W~I~S~E approach to resolving conflicts and disagreements with a high degree of success and minimal disappointment to all parties. Here are 4 steps: This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network...

Conversation is highly overrated. There is both intelligence and beauty in silence. Listen to the stillness. Know when it's best not to say anything at all. Here are some more examples of when it's smart to be quiet. This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (http://www.talk4media.com/).

There are many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can either make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is a time to speak and a time to keep our mouths shut. Here are more than twenty such times: This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio...

It doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of property, injury to one's person, or psychological damage can occur. Why does this happen and how can one prevent a heated situation from escalating? This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET...

Life doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a few extreme circumstance, an angry reaction rarely improves the situation or endears us to the other party. But are there alternative responses to anger? This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at...

We all get angry from time-to-time. Sometimes our anger is righteous and other times without valid cause. But there are alternatives to getting mad. Being sad or glad are two of them. Discover the benefits to these alternative feelings and how to attain them. This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (http://www.talk4media.com/).

Is there a way families can reduce the amount to tension between them? While we may not be able to completely eliminate it, we most certainly can take measures to make family interactions more enjoyable. Here are 10 practical tips to help reduce family friction. This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (http://www.talk4media.com/).

I abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is something very different: it simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. It is not synonymous with fighting. Many disagreements can be readily resolved quickly by adhering to the following fifteen minute protocol: This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4...

I'm slow to anger and quick to forgive. Occasionally I find myself trapped in a quicksand of ire that threatens my well-being. Such is my current state of affairs. I know exactly what to do to relinquish my anger yet I'm reluctant to do so. But should I choose to restore my serenity, here are 8 steps I can take: This show is broadcast live on Wednesday's at 9AM ET on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network...