I went to reach for the bags and he gave me that "don't you touch it" look and I drew my hand back. I admit, I'm still learning and breaking that mammy mule training my mother gave. I watched my mother do it all, even with a husband.  We walk home. I make him laugh and he teases me. We enjoy the scent of the flowering and fruiting trees blooming. We laugh at squirrels. We discuss our plans for autumn. As we near home, my Haitian female neighbor calls out to us. I don't hear her at first. I turn to my husband, trying to see if he heard her?  "What did she say to us?" I asked. And before he could reply, the Haitian woman was up on me. She admonished me for "breaking" my 6'4 husband down. She was gesturing and was visibly upset by me not carrying any bags "a woman gets lazy when she relies on a man too much. This is unequal yoke. You need to be helping him out with the groceries. It doesn't make sense for one person to carry everything." She has a house full of sons, I watch her struggle with the groceries, the laundry and always on her own. The truth is, her old ass is jealous that my HUSBAND is a Masculine who does what he ought to My husband said to her "men are supposed to lift burdens from women. Not hand them to you. Have a good day miss." My husband said  "it's not just the men, it's the women we gotta watch and keep you safe from." The black woman has ruined her son and then seeks to ruin other women so they are broken enough to tolerate her worthless, global failure, black son(s). It's disgusting to witness. Black women, you need to know WHAT patriarchy is. We will be talking about who men are and what they do. I am also relaunching my School of Man Bookstudy. Sign up here: www.angrydevas.com/the-school-of-man.html