Summary In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the nuanced definitions of selfishness and selflessness, challenging societal norms that label selfishness as negative. They discuss the importance of self-care and the need for individuals to prioritize their own needs to be able to contribute positively to the world. The conversation delves into childhood conditioning, the people-pleasing epidemic, and the journey from selflessness to a healthier form of selfishness, termed 'selffulness.' Liv shares her personal vows to herself as a powerful example of self-love and commitment to personal growth. Keywords selfishness, selflessness, selffulness, personal growth, self-care, childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, balance, relationships, empowerment Takeaways Selfishness and selflessness are two ends of the same spectrum. Being selfish can be a form of self-care and empowerment. Childhood conditioning often leads to people-pleasing behaviors. Finding balance between selflessness and selfishness is crucial for personal growth. It's important to check in with oneself before giving to others. You can't pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential. The journey from selflessness to selfishness can involve a necessary swing. Selffulness is about being full enough to give to others authentically. Self-love is a vital part of being able to love others well. Creating a healed world requires individuals to be selfful. Sound Bites "It's okay to be selfish." "We could save the world if each individual person just stopped looking for somebody to save them." "You can't give something you don't have." Chapters 00:00 Defining Selfishness and Selflessness 05:51 The Importance of Self-Care 11:51 Cultural Conditioning and People-Pleasing 19:31 The Swing from Selflessness to Selfishness 27:17 Finding Balance in Relationships 33:45 The Role of Basic Needs 39:19 The Power of Selffullness 51:23 Liv's Vows to Herself 59:12 Outro (Show notes and captions are AI-assisted. All other content is human-made, original, and proprietary. The fact that we need to make this distinction is WILD!)