The Unmasking Suicide " by Abe Esquibel. Suicide is a difficult topic to talk about, most people often avoid talking about. Perhaps if we did talk about our thoughts and feelings or open sharing our internal conflicts, then maybe so many people wouldn’t see suicide as an option for escaping their pain. Simple, real conversations may just make the difference between life and death.  Abe was born in Mexico, moved to United States, enlisted in the army, got a masters in Social work and worked for 40 years at Kaiser as a social worker. Abe guaranteed he would not give a suicide demonstration. Abe anticipated that people might find the talk to be depressing and so indicated that he found his experiences to be uplifting. In September last year National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. More people die by suicide than from homicide, and that holds true for teens, too. For youth ages 10 to 24, suicide is the second leading cause of death, with approximately 16 American youth taking their lives each day, according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.  Abe worked in three different clinics dealing with families and individuals for 22 years. For the last 17 years, he worked in the ER. He was called in when a patient needed a psych eval, and had the authority to hospitalize patients. Abe used a powerful intervention, an Australian approach, that explains that suicide exerts power from an external position. He’d begin by asking for permission to give his take on suicide. Most patients said yes. He’d ask, “what is your relationship with suicide?”, referencing suicide as an entity, an external influencer. Sometimes the “relationship” had gone on for years. He explained that suicide is like a negative energy that looks for vulnerable people and tries to convince them that taking themselves out is a good solution. “Your life is never going to get better.” “You’re a failure.” “Your family will be better off without you.” Abe would say to his patients that the goal of suicide is to take you out and to cause devastation to all around you. He affirmed their pain, but explained the persistent pain suicide causes to others. Typically Abe insisted that the family be present for an intervention, asking them to relate to their child or sibling how they would be affected if the suicide was successful. Families were asked to provide positive feedback. Family members confess to a personal relationship with suicide 50-60 percent of the time. Most say they have ended their relationship with suicide, and could say how they did it, which is useful. Abe would ask a patient whether they could commit to kick suicide out of their life, and if they hesitated, they would be admitted to the hospital. He often found that after a couple of hours with the patient, they were in a very different place. He shared a note received from a person who had tried to commit suicide, stressing the realization that suicide wasn’t a good solution. Suicide is really a self imposed death penalty, a more shocking term that emphasizes its terrible impact. It is very important to respond when someone appears to be suicidal, lest you become another who suffers from the impact of suicide. Ask them, “are you thinking about taking your own life?” Report it! Let them know they are valuable to you. Make sure they have no access to a gun. Make sure medications are in a secure place. The more we talk about suicide, the weaker suicide becomes. Let's talk about it!