Have you ever wondered what it's like to walk a mile in someone else's shoes? To drum to the beat of a different life? In this heart-to-heart episode of Better Call Daddy, John, affectionately known as Jive, and one of my favorite podcasters shares his unconventional life journey.  From the young age of 14, he found himself navigating the harsh realities of homelessness, which later fueled his passion for helping those on the streets. Despite the trials, John's spirit remains unbreakable as he shares his candid thoughts on marriage, parenting, and the pursuit of purpose over fleeting happiness. As a father estranged from two of his sons, John reveals the complexities of family dynamics and the lingering impact of his own parents' divorce. His philosophy? Power over force, and attraction over pursuit. He believes in the transformative power of facing hostility head-on, embracing the chaos, and finding the rhythm in life's fickle beat. John's reflections are a raw and real testament to the resilience of the human spirit. Join us as we explore the lessons learned from the school of hard knocks and the quest for authentic connection in a world that often turns a blind eye to its most vulnerable. Better Call Daddy: The Safe Space for Controversy.  Connect with John https://johnpodcasting.com/ Connect with Reenabettercalldaddy.comlinkedin.com/in/reenafriedmanwatts twitter.com/reenareenainstagram.com/reenafriedmanwatts instagram.com/bettercalldaddypodcast Me and my dad would love to hear from you. Drop us a review, reviews help more people find the show, and let us know what you like and what you'd like us to change. Please share the show with one friend who you think would be helped by the show. ratethispodcast.com/bettercalldaddy podchaser.com/bettercalldaddy Castmagic is the AI tool I use for show notes and podcast title ideas, it has helped save me tons of time. Please use my affiliate link if you sign up.https://get.castmagic.io/bettercalldaddy Show notes created by https://headliner.app (00:00) This is the better call daddy show. Each week I interview a guest, share stories with my dad(01:37) Oklahoma is very much like California on a weird scale(06:03) I moved to LA in my twenties and felt like it was the land of dreams(08:27) When did you start loving music(10:45) Did your parents encourage your musical interests or do you do that as a parent(12:30) Being on stage with the drum kit is different than being a normal person(14:10) Your podcast is in the philosophy category, but it's also a hobby(16:59) Not having a mental health podcast is a good way to start(20:27) Last year I was getting into voice acting, right? So I was. Went down into a rabbit hole(24:46) It takes a lot of effort to keep projects moving forward(29:28) A lot of podcasters feel ignored by social media platforms(33:43) Jay worked in TV production where nobody does anything by themselves(34:40) John was married for about ten years before getting divorced(38:57) If you're a grown man, stay out of the way. Don't assert yourself. No one needs your opinion. Just do your thing and(39:08) Power versus force, the hidden determinants of human behavior is a great book(42:57) Everyone has a different level of what's acceptable in relationships(45:30) What do you want for your own children(46:21) Is it you don't have communication with some of your kids(47:58) You have a close relationship with your mom because you guys have struggled together(50:19) John says he misses spending time with his kids during the holidays(53:52) I feel like you have a passion for the homelessness. I feel like I've experienced that myself(57:59) You say you like smart people. What else is on your list of the type of lady(58:48) I want to know what your dad thinks about homeless people owning animals(01:02:39) I learned a lot about dealing with hostility in the juvenile justice system(01:06:27) What do you do if customers are harassing your employees(01:09:10) John says unless you're