When we stop beating ourselves up and start helping ourselves instead, we find the peace we’ve always wanted—but never thought possible. Most of us are trying to succeed our way out of insecurity. But it never ends. This is the fundamental problem of all high achievers: our desire to get more, win bigger, be better, and prove once and for all we’re good enough is not enough. Proving anything to your satisfaction is a rational process. But feeling like we’re not good enough is an emotional conclusion. And the emotional mind ignores rational proof. Feelings don’t care about your facts, so no matter how hard you push or how much you win, victory is only fleeting. Ultimately, this creates obsession, then exhaustion. It doesn’t even feel good to finish anymore. It only feels good to work. That’s not good.