Are outbursts, a chronic lack of trust, and an unpredictable fluctuation between avoidant and anxious behavior a sign of disorganized attachment? What is disorganized attachment? How does it affect relationships? Why don’t we hear more about this attachment style? Can we move from disorganized attachment to secure attachment? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - and self proclaimed attachment nerd - Julie Menanno, to explore the least mentioned and most elusive attachment style: disorganized AKA fearful avoidant. Drawing from personal experience, they unpack developmental traumas that result in disorganized attachment and discuss strategies for healing and moving towards a more secure connection.  More about Julie Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships. While Julie’s first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts.  In her spare time Julie enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading about psychology, and studying Italian. IG: @thesecurerelationship thesecurerelationship.com Resources: traumahealing.org Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) “The book you wish your parent had read” - Philippa Perry “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - Hal Straus and Jerold Jay Kreisman Support the showTo find more about Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla, follow them at @wearecuriousfoxes, @coacheffyblue, and @jacquelinemisla on Instagram. If you have a question that you would like to explore on the show, reach out to us and we may answer your question on one of our upcoming episodes. Leave us a voicemail at 646-450-9079 or email us at [email protected] Follow us on social media for further resources on this topic: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes instagram.com/wearecuriousfoxes youtube/wearecuriousfoxes Join the conversation: fb.com/groups/CuriousFox