We are curious: How can we explore mismatched kinks with our partners? How do we find common ground and understand where the resistance is without creating pressure or being coercive? And what can be done if there's no common ground? In this episode, Effy enlists the expertise of a seasoned pro Dom, kink educator and a longtime foxy friend of the show Miss Shayla. Together, they embark on a candid conversation, delving into the intricacies of navigating mismatched kinks with partners. Effy and Miss Shayla offer valuable insights and strategies for approaching partners about kinky desires with respect, sensitivity, and consent. They unpack the complexities of finding common ground and explore alternatives when a shared playground for partners seems elusive. Links mentioned in the episode 12 Step program fear inventory and resentment inventory Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation Workbook To learn more about Miss Shayla Mistress Shayla Lange is an NYC based Pro-Domme, co-creator of the kinky educational series “7Days of Domination”, and owner of New York’s largest female-owned Dungeon Instagram: @YesMissShayla Website: 7DaysofDomination.com Support the showConnect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes Effy Blue @coacheffyblue Jacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: [email protected] Join the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes