Brenden Durell, intimacy expert on Netflix's Too Hot To Handle, guides us towards a deeper connection within with exercises that he practiced on the show and inspired by his intimacy retreat. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I find myself falling for men who either go all in or don’t give me the time of day. How can I change my pattern? Follow Brenden on Instagram @BrendenDurell and be sure to check out his work at BrendenDurell.com Look out for his “Inspired Intimacy Challenge” on socials and the Intimacy in the Jungle retreat in October. And, we are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Intimacy (00:00:00) Mirror Work Begins (00:00:09) Understanding Intimacy (00:00:13) Brendan's Background (00:02:05) Location and Energy (00:02:41) Premise of "Too Hot to Handle" (00:04:19) Evolution of Brendan's Role (00:06:00) Mirror Exercise Explanation (00:08:05) Impact of Reality TV (00:10:07) Apologizing to Oneself (00:11:23) Historical Context of Mirrors (00:12:23) Power of Self-Forgiveness (00:14:26) Intimacy Retreats (00:16:49) The Connection with Mother Earth (00:18:00) City Slicker vs. Nature (00:18:18) Walking Through Discomfort (00:19:17) Presence in the Moment (00:20:22) Reframing Time Pressure (00:24:51) Rites of Passage Experience (00:26:08) Intimacy in the Jungle Retreat (00:28:46) Embracing the Unknown (00:30:09) Renegotiating Commitments (00:32:35) God Exists in Everything (00:34:00) Exploring Intimacy Across Cultures (00:34:46) Curiosity in Personal Growth (00:35:52) Demystifying Intimacy (00:36:40) Reframing Perspectives on Pleasure (00:36:51) Listener's Dating Struggles (00:38:49) Prioritizing Self-Love (00:40:02) Understanding Relationship Patterns (00:41:08) Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:42:39) The Importance of Inner Intimacy (00:45:26) Invitation to Join the Program (00:46:32) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices