“I’ve listened to numerous episodes because it’s refreshing to hear white men attempting to do the work of being good humans, spouses, and parents. I do have to take a long pause sometimes though for 2 reasons:
1. I hit overload with one of the hosts just constantly interrupting the other 2 and talking over them and telling us things that are irrelevant and making everything about him. I just can’t anymore sometimes so I have to stop and not listen for a few months.
2. While it’s refreshing to hear them talk things like about weaponized helplessness, there is still a decent dose of unrecognized privilege going on. It would be helpful if they listened to voices who weren’t male and white more to hear actual lived experiences (outside of their wives’).
Example: in one episode one host says he teaches his son to do things like decide whether his school assignments count toward enough of his grade to be worth his time doing. I have a lot of thoughts about teaching kids they can blow off school work without considering the teacher might just have a reason for why the kid needs to learn something, but the bigger issue is that this reasoning only works when you’re white, male and wealthy. A person of color would instantly be labeled “lazy” for taking this approach and that label would impact them for the rest of their school years, if not their whole lives. If you don’t believe me, ask someone who isn’t white and male.
Its disappointing to hear no acknowledgment that the approaches they espouse work only for people in their shoes. I know they are personal opinions but when you have a platform you have a responsibility.
But other than those 2 things I enjoy this. And I like that they often have different perspectives from one another and explain why and listen to each other (when not being interrupted).”
Dldlse via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
06/11/23