“First of all, I’m shocked that a so called “expert” on social interactions would describe herself as a “gossip”. To me, talking about anyone maliciously behind their back is small and close-minded, and just plain mean. It’s something that most of us did in high school and hopefully grew out of. Even if the person you’re gossiping about is someone you don’t like or has done something to hurt you, they’re still a or person. There are good and bad parts to them, as there are to every single one of us, and besides that, who are you to judge their pain or suffering? Any time I’m with someone and they are talking maliciously about another person, it says more to me about the gossiper than the gosipee (if that’s a word 😆).
And sometimes the advice is just BAD! For example - the neighbor that comes over to talk when the woman is outside in her garden because she saved her life. There are CERTAINLY other choices besides icing her out like a child, or pretending to be her friend. Why not make it about something besides her? Maybe tell her that your yard is your space to mentally rest, unwind, and be alone with your thoughts, and you appreciate the quiet while you’re out there. That way it doesn’t become personal, and you’ve set your boundary. As you and everyone of us have a right to do. If she still takes offense, at that point it’s not your problem.”
Sarah84573 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
05/28/23