In this much-requested episode, we explore the topic of shame and blame, how we can become mired in these emotions, whether by taking on too much responsibility or deflecting it onto others. What does centered self-accountability look like and when and why do we engage in both over and under-accountability? We discuss the pitfalls of using the language of ‘victim mindset. ’We delve into the complexities of centered self-accountability and explore the origins of over and under accountability, which are often rooted in childhood trauma. In other words, how do we move forward and find agency, power, and creative potential without ignoring or denying the pain of the past. In this episode we discuss: The impact of over and under accountability on adult relationships and self-trust How to recognize these self-protection strategies developed in childhood The accountability spectrum and its usefulness in approaching conflict. Links: Sessions: www.jazminerussell.com Reclaiming All Parts of You: Healing the Roots of Shame and Insecurity [Free workbook & meditation download] https://witty-creator-9045.ck.page/e89cafda64 Research: The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/ Accountability Spectrum inspired by Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement, Nathan Shara's chapter on Facing Shame: From Saying Sorry to Doing Sorry https://www.akpress.org/beyond-survival-e-book.html Disclaimer: The DEPTH Work Podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Any information on this podcast in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, psychotherapy, mental health counseling, or any other type of therapy or medical advice.