Picture this if you will, I am a single Mum, I separated from my kids Dad just over 18 months earlier. Our communication was hard. We couldn’t have a conversation without it ending in a screaming match. And they weren’t even face to face, this was all over the phone.  I was beyond frustrated and felt completely lost as to how I could shift what was happening in a way that would serve our kids. I was spending a lot of nights crying and a lot of days angry, hurt and feeling deeply alone. I was lost. I didn’t know how to get out of the dynamic that I thought would be different when we separated. It wasn’t, while I had space, it was the same issues playing out even though we weren’t together.  Around this time I attended a training in NLP and Meta Dynamics with a lady called Remi Pearson. The whole experience was phenomenal, but one model of experience particularly had me sitting in a hot bath one night with a bottle of red, really deeply looking at myself as to how I was contributing to the situation and how I could in fact influence it by changing the level of my focus and my behavior to match what I actually wanted.   In this episode of Enquiry I am going to share with you that model and how you can use it to change everything.  Follow me on Instagram.