In this episode, Elaine introduces good friend, spunky seniorpreneur, speaker, author of the award-winning book Return To Center, and clinical therapist Patricia Morgan. You’ll hear some awesome insights on how using ordinary language is one of the most powerful tools in her toolbox as a therapist, and yours as a farmer. Elaine and her guest examine how Patricia’s discovery of Polyvagal Theory in 2020 led to a better understanding of what stress actually is, how it affects the nervous system, and how the simple use of intentional words can change everything. This episode provides listeners with some actionable tips and tools they can start using today, to stop catastrophizing and start returning to center. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Patricia Morgan. Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:00 Introduction to Patricia Morgan and her award-winning book 0:00:46 The motivation behind Patricia’s book “Return To Center” 0:01:43 Polyvagal theory - a new understanding of stress  0:02:33 Using ordinary language vs complex medical terminology  0:04:08 How Patricia helps people return to center   0:08:38 Challenging triggering thoughts  0:09:50 What is an “Emotional Bank Account”  0:12:53 Catastrophizing and triggers   0:14:40 Rocky Mountain Couples Retreat   0:15:40 Jumping to conclusions and mind-reading  0:16:36 How are you, really?  0:17:28 Emotional reasoning 0:18:12 Expressing emotions is one the best positive conflict behaviors  0:19:46 Judging, name calling, and labeling  0:20:22 The danger of ‘You Are’ and ‘I Am’ statements 0:22:28 The power of the word “wow” 0:23:20 Hurt vs afraid  0:24:35 How the need to be right is wronging your relationships 0:26:15 Self-compassion 0:27:48 The three emotional states and the one you wants to work towards  0:30:00 Accessing mental health services