You may find you and your partner fighting about the dishwasher, kids, money or sex. But what are you really fighting about? That's what experts answer on this episode as they highlight the emotional cycle, the sexual cycle and the impact of both. Couples are really set up to miss each other and argue. It's an unfair reality that so many of us know. Some of us need verbal communication and a strong emotional connection to feel close and others need physical touch to create safety and connection. And when these things conflict we experience misattunement. Join our hosts today as they talk through a role play conversation highlighting this dilemma and the best ways to repair it. The ability to repair is what makes couples great and able to handle whatever conflict is thrown their way. Next time you find yourself arguing over the dishes, maybe it's time to explore the cycles and if they are colliding. Check out this episode's sponsor: UBERLUBE! -- Laurie's favorite personal lubricant for the past 25 years! Use the code foreplay at checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices