As a first generation Vietnamese-American, Mike felt an obligation to make the most of his opportunities that his immigrant parents fought so hard to provide him. But even though his family was part of a robust Vietnamese community in Sugarland, TX (a suburb of Houston), Mike still felt like an outsider. Unlike most of his friends, he wasn’t fluent in Vietnamese and his emerging sexuality only made him feel more separated. Even after leaving for college and coming out to his family, Mike maintained a rigid moral code and was skeptical of other queer people who had more loose definitions of relationships. It wasn’t until he lived in New York City that he became friends with other queer people who were in non-traditional partnerships. Now he lives in Seattle with his two boyfriends and most of his friends have very open perspectives when it comes to love, friendship, sex and relationships. In his 33 years, he’s come a long way from Sugarland. Mike also has some amazing adventures to talk about including an eye-opening hook up with a dom top in Hong Kong and a sexy cross-country adventure to Canada that ends with a very important lesson when it comes to dildo selection.  Dave Pezzner is the Assistant Editor & Mixer for this episode. Story editing by Dave Quantic. Post-Production funding for this episode provided by Scruff Dating App. Thanks, Scruff! FRUITBOWL is produced independently by creator Dave Quantic without corporate media support.  Each interview is recorded in-person, on location in each interviewee’s home. Scruff’s support currently pays for a post-production assistant editor; however, there is still need for additional financial support for website maintenance, promotion, and production expenses including travel, accommodations and equipment rental.  Help support FRUITBOWL’s mission of documenting and sharing stories about queer coming of age by becoming a patron! A minimum $5 monthly donation allows patrons early access to episodes, behind the scenes updates and an exclusive video outtake for each episode that is not available to the general public. Thanks to Ryan, HB, Gio and John for becoming our latest patrons. This puts us at 31 patrons who, together, raise $177 per month. Learn more about how to become a patron at: https://www.patreon.com/fruitbowlpodcast  Do you have a business or product that you think FRUITBOWL’s audience would like to know about? Or maybe you’d like to personally underwrite an episode in honor of an individual or nonprofit? Underwriting/advertising rate sheets are available for advertisers and underwriters as well as production support. For more information, visit: https://www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate. Underwriting fees are 100% tax deductible through a partnership with Northwest Film Forum’s fiscal sponsorship program.  FRUITBOWL RECEIVES NO DIRECT FUNDING FROM NWFF, only the use of their non-profit status to receive tax deductible donations. For more information check out: https://nwfilmforum.org/education/artist-services/nonprofit-fiscal-sponsorship-filmmakers/fiscal-sponsee-fruitbowl-oral-history-queer-sex/  Word of mouth is our most powerful promotional tool right now, so tell your friends about FRUITBOWL and rate & review us on iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fruitbowl/id1468574292  Subscribe to our YouTube video channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjuUDG5nTc6x0oZtL0guPiA Twitter: https://twitter.com/fruitbowlpod  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fruitbowlpodcast/ The official website: https://www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/ Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork was created by Patrick Stephenson of Bearpad! https://bearpad.storenvy.com/  Check out host Saira B’s awesome podcast about erotic fan fiction, FREAKY TALES 4 U! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/freaky-tales-4-u-a-queer-fanfiction-show/id1463915467 On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fruitbowl/id1468574292  On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3L