This episode features a voice that will be familiar with Fruitbowl fans: our very own host with the most, Saira B.! After just a few minutes of listening, you’ll soon learn why Saira (who, BTW, uses ALL the pronouns) is the perfect person to represent the amazing diversity of experiences of Fruitbowl interviewees. Raised in Wilmington, Delaware to academic parents who trusted their kid to explore cities like Philly and NYC all by herself, Saira was always informed about his body’s different functions including how babies get made by a mom who valued clear communication about the science of the body. As they grew into adolescence, Saira applied this same academic curiosity to her interest in sex and kink and they have some great advice when it comes to exploring BDSM: make sure to inform yourself about the kinds of kink you want to explore, communicate with your partner or partners clearly and don’t assume that the top doesn’t also need aftercare.  Dave Pezzner is the Assistant Editor & Mixer for this episode. Story editing by Dave Quantic. Post-Production funding for this episode provided by our Patreon community. FRUITBOWL is produced independently by creator Dave Quantic without corporate media support. Patron funds help pay for website maintenance, promotion, and production expenses including travel, accommodations and equipment rental.  Help support FRUITBOWL’s mission of documenting and sharing stories about queer coming of age by becoming a patron! A minimum $5 monthly donation allows patrons early access to episodes, behind the scenes updates and an exclusive video outtake for each episode that is not available to the general public. Thanks to Cecil for becoming our latest patron! This puts us at 33 patrons who, together, raise $190 per month.  Also, a big thanks to Ted for increasing their monthly donation amount. Learn more at: https://www.patreon.com/fruitbowlpodcast  Do you have a business or product that you think FRUITBOWL’s audience would like to know about? Or maybe you’d like to personally underwrite an episode in honor of an individual or nonprofit? Underwriting/advertising rate sheets are available for advertisers and underwriters as well as production support. For more information, visit: https://www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate. Underwriting fees are 100% tax deductible through a partnership with Northwest Film Forum’s fiscal sponsorship program.  FRUITBOWL RECEIVES NO DIRECT FUNDING FROM NWFF, only the use of their non-profit status to receive tax deductible donations. For more information check out: https://nwfilmforum.org/education/artist-services/nonprofit-fiscal-sponsorship-filmmakers/fiscal-sponsee-fruitbowl-oral-history-queer-sex/  Word of mouth is our most powerful promotional tool right now, so tell your friends about FRUITBOWL and rate & review us on iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fruitbowl/id1468574292  Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork was created by Patrick Stephenson of Bearpad! https://bearpad.storenvy.com/